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I'm not a Christian, but I think you should always try it before you buy it.
I'm not a Christian, but I think you should always try it before you buy it.
I'm not sure sampling is sufficient, I like the old adage - 'if you want to know me come and live with me'
what are peoples thoughts about this i have met these neo harvard educated theologians and pastors who endorse sex before marriage. and then of course there is the more main line doctrine.
I'm not a Christian, but I think you should always try it before you buy it.
If you ask a enough Christian ministers, from a wide variety of Christian denomiations, I'm sure you will get a wide sampling of opinions ranging from the "mainline" doctrine that you mentioned, all the way to 3 Sigma out on the opinion curve.
Did you mean that literally?
I was raised as a conservative Christian and as the OP implied I bought into the "mainline" doctrine for many years. However, I no longer define myself as "conservative". I do agree that the "try before you buy" has some appeal. However, the "try" part has many aspects. Sex is just one of many facets of being married - albeit a very important one!
I think a problem arises when sexual conquests (i.e. accumulating notches on the bedpost) become the goal, rather than a part of the more complex ritual of courtship and romance, to see if a potential marriage partner is compatible with you on multiple levels.
I don't think there's anything wrong with a "summer" romance as long as there is no deception involved, there is mutual respect from both parties, and there are no third parties (existing husband, wives or children) that would be emotionally injured in the process - not to mention the potential for STDs from being sexually promiscuous.
It's a delicate topic, sexually, emotionally and spiritually.
Yeah, I do mean it. I think it's crazy to decide you want to live together with a person and spend your entire life having sex with only them before you have any idea what that's going to be like.
On the other hand, my Christian friends who went down that road (or at least tried to) seem happy enough in their marriage so far. Different strokes for different folks, I guess. I lived with my hubby for years before we got hitched.
Neither of us are Christian though, so there were no moral, spiritual or religious dimensions to that situation. We're just rather fond of one another.
It's a small minority that endorses such a thing. Most Abrahamaic faiths would shun against it and there is little to support for it within holy text, tradition, and history. But then again, you opened this question up to plenty of non-christians and non-theist so I'd be shocked if they didn't support sex before marriage.
"Eighty percent of young, unmarried Christians have had sex. Two-thirds have been sexually active in the last year. Even though, according to a recent Gallup poll, 76 percent of evangelicals believe sex outside of marriage is morally wrong.
In fact, a recent study reveals that 88 percent of unmarried young adults (ages 18-29) are having sex. The same study, conducted by The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, reveals the number doesnt drop much among Christians. Of those surveyed who self-identify as evangelical, 80 percent say they have had sex. Eighty percent. So much for true love waits."
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Hypocrites. That sort of thing really irritates me. I've dated a couple serious Christians and the whole post-coital sin / guilt / shame "satan sent you to tempt me from the path of righteousness" thing is really tedious.
Ah, premature ejaculators.
"Eighty percent of young, unmarried Christians have had sex. Two-thirds have been sexually active in the last year. Even though, according to a recent Gallup poll, 76 percent of evangelicals believe sex outside of marriage is morally wrong.
In fact, a recent study reveals that 88 percent of unmarried young adults (ages 18-29) are having sex. The same study, conducted by The National Campaign to Prevent Teen and Unplanned Pregnancy, reveals the number doesnt drop much among Christians. Of those surveyed who self-identify as evangelical, 80 percent say they have had sex. Eighty percent. So much for true love waits."
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Especially when such ''sins'' are irrational and unreasonable. Also, if they can't practice it, they have no business preaching it.Yes, Christians do sin.
I'm not a Christian, but I think you should always try it before you buy it.