In your religious faith, does your religious organization require obedience/vows/commitment to the organization as part of its marriage vows?
No (Jewish), it does however have a religious ceremony that bonds you in a religious marriage.
- ie - you are not allowed to just make a commitment to a person, you have to commit to the religious organization?
In Israel (where i live), a marriage without a religious ceremony is not yet considered marriage.
You do not get all the benefits of being married religiously.
You can however declare in a court of law that you are the husband or wife of X, but it is a bureaucracy process.
The organization forces itself between you and your spouse?
Not at all. and the ceremony is very emotional and thrilling. once you are married, apart from the "binding document", the religious way of life is your decision and no one intervenes.
For those of you who put God first - it seems like you would not have as close of a relationship with your spouse...
I disagree.
How can one believe in God and not put it first?
You wont have a relationship at all without God.
If else, managing marriage life as suggested by the Jewish (the proper Jewish religion) can do wonders to your marriage.
I am divorced, and only after discovering the Jewish religion i understand how many mistakes I have done in my marriage.
I wish every couple to have the wisdom of understanding the smarts of marriage as suggest by God's ways.
I was married in the Mormon church, have now left the church, and am feeling horrible about my marriage vows:
Mormon Temple Marriage Ceremony
Mormons do not include " forsaking all others" as part of their vows - the vows is to the "new and everlasting - polygamous - covenant", so there is no loyalty to your spouse, no vow of commitment to any single person, it is nothing more than a commitment to an organization which is sickening.
In Jewish religion you don't have an actual vows, you sanctify your wife. it is actually a very strong and powerful moment imo. you actually sanctify your bond to one another, making her and yourself one soul (as an idea)
I am navigating a mixed-faith relationship (I have left the church, spouse has not) - anyone else out there in a mixed-faith marriage?
Not me
I was an atheist and she was not, but both not religious.
Do you feel your religious organization comes between family members, forces itself between people - holds itself to be more important than human-to-human real relationships?
God no! The bond between man and wife is one of the strongest bonds in the Jewish religion.
For that matter, the Jewish religion "preaches" to treat others as best as you can, regardless of their beliefs.
I find it sad that a religious organization can come between people (we also have that in the Jewish communities of course, but it is in contrast to what the Jewish religion teaches you)
What should a marriage vow be?
To be the best person you can in order to make your other the person he/she can.
To become one minded, one entity while maintaining and respecting the individual of each.
To support and to encourage.
To provide and to nourish.
ETC... you get the point