I’ll list again some adverse effects that I see from toxic and distracting behavior, and some ideas for helping to reduce and counteract them.
Adverse effects:
- Injurious effects on the targets.
- Encouraging self-deception and self-repression, and discouraging free thinking and free exchange of ideas.
- Perpetuating and intensifying prejudices, animosities and hostilities all around.
- Inconveniences in trying to follow a discussion.
- Obscuring and confusing the issues in the topic being discussed.
Ideas for helping to reduce and counteract them:
- Learn when to not respond to posts and even to some people posting sometimes, and not even mention them. Learn to recognize all the devious ways that people try to set other people up for personal attacks against them. Again, that may or may not be conscious or intentional.
- Don’t be fooled by people denying and excusing toxic behavior, and blaming the targets for its injurious effects on them.
- Friendly ratings, and friendly posts or PMs to targets of personal attacks. Sometimes those attacks are camouflaged so well that even the targets don’t realize what’s happening to them. Learning more about signs and symptoms of verbal abuse can help with that. Be prepared to become a target of the same abuse, and even take arrows from the targets sometimes.
- Learn to recognize when you’re being diverted away from your topic. After a series of distracting posts, bring yourself back to topic, and post an update on your thoughts about it.
- Learn to resist the temptation to post uncomplimentary thoughts about a person’s character, motives or intentions.
- Practice and promote spiritual growth and community service, with the best kind of love for all of nature including all people everywhere.