Epic Beard Man
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The following video is an interesting analysis of the current dating era and an honest wake-up call for men to be more vigilant in regards to finding a life partner for themselves. In speaking of heterosexual relationships, I often find dating to be unequal. We still live in a society where we employ archaic courtship rituals where men do the chasing, women have the choice to accept or not. Men must have a car, women must be the passenger. Men must pay, the woman enjoys a free meal. After the date, the man bids her a goodnight where kissing is consensual as well as optional. In the following days, a woman has the option of "ghosting" the man or pursue another date, or friend zone him. I've never been a "red pill" guy or an MGTOW type of man either, but I can understand some of the resentment some men feel towards women when it comes to the inequality in courtship. I personally blame society for conditioning men and women this way into thinking this is acceptable. Social media has also exaggerated this phenomenon such as Tinder or Plenty of Fish as well as a host of other sites where people determine your worth based initially on looks. Swipe left to find them unattractive, and swipe right to find them attractive.
As someone who tried the online dating thing I've noticed if half the men put what they want the same way women did men would be considered narcissistic, a-holes. What do I mean by this? Well, for example when I was on one particular app, this woman was 43 years old, a Certified Nurses Assistant who had three kids. In her Bio, she wrote something to the effect of:
"I'm a CNA and mother of three looking for a man who is tall, fit, and is well off, has his own place and doesn't mind helping me with kids. I don't want any more kids but I do want a man that can help me with mine and support me."
I'm like really? You're 43 years old, three kids, looking for a "high-value man" and you're a CNA (no offense that isn't even a profession that pays well) but you have what it appears is this expectation of another adult to help you. Where is their father? Now if the roles were reversed nine times out of 10 women would reject him and most likely call him a loser. It would seem in the rules of dating women seem to get away with qualities that resemble a child and not a responsible adult but if a man does it he is "broke" "dusty" and "not a real man." At 39 years old, although I used to be optimistic, have become pessimistic of the dating pool. I've met far too many women recently that are mentally damaged from past relationships looking to date as a bandaid over an emotional gaping wound. Some have too much baggage and simply put the standards of dating at least where I live are unfair. A sad reality in all of this is if I had Jeff Bezos money in my checking account this wouldn't happen. For those of you who are single what do you think? Or those not single have you seen or even experienced something similar yourselves?
The following is the video I'm referencing:
As someone who tried the online dating thing I've noticed if half the men put what they want the same way women did men would be considered narcissistic, a-holes. What do I mean by this? Well, for example when I was on one particular app, this woman was 43 years old, a Certified Nurses Assistant who had three kids. In her Bio, she wrote something to the effect of:
"I'm a CNA and mother of three looking for a man who is tall, fit, and is well off, has his own place and doesn't mind helping me with kids. I don't want any more kids but I do want a man that can help me with mine and support me."
I'm like really? You're 43 years old, three kids, looking for a "high-value man" and you're a CNA (no offense that isn't even a profession that pays well) but you have what it appears is this expectation of another adult to help you. Where is their father? Now if the roles were reversed nine times out of 10 women would reject him and most likely call him a loser. It would seem in the rules of dating women seem to get away with qualities that resemble a child and not a responsible adult but if a man does it he is "broke" "dusty" and "not a real man." At 39 years old, although I used to be optimistic, have become pessimistic of the dating pool. I've met far too many women recently that are mentally damaged from past relationships looking to date as a bandaid over an emotional gaping wound. Some have too much baggage and simply put the standards of dating at least where I live are unfair. A sad reality in all of this is if I had Jeff Bezos money in my checking account this wouldn't happen. For those of you who are single what do you think? Or those not single have you seen or even experienced something similar yourselves?
The following is the video I'm referencing: