Flappycat said:
Can't a person have both?
Sure a person can have both. And in the long run it is probably best to keep an open mind to everyones opinions.
Just so the pro-spankers don't think us anti-spankers are not citing anything from experts in their fields, here are a few things I have found in the ocean of spanking pros and cons on the internet.
Murray A. Straus a professor of sociology and co-director of the Family Research Laboratory states that seventy percent of child abuse cases begin as spanking. Spanking hinders the development of empathy remorse or compassion. The child focuses on the pain, rather than the effect of his or her own behavior on others. Corporal punishment, used at the toddler age, can reduce the degree to which children develop a conscience.
Some more citings.
The more parents spanked children for antisocial behavior, the more the antisocial behavior increased (Straus, Sugarman, & Giles-Sims, 1997.)
The more children are hit, the more likely they are to hit others including peers and siblings and, as adults, they are more likely to hit their spouses (Straus and Gelles, 1990; Wolfe, 1987.)
Analysis of 88 corporal punishment studies over six decades by Dr. Elizabeth Gershoff (2002) showed that spanking was associated with l0 negative behaviors.
A new study shows that disciplining children by spanking puts youngsters at risk for becoming aggressive, antisocial, and chronically defiant.
http://www.washingtonpost.com/ac2/wp-dyn?pagename=article&contentId=A44875-2002Jun25¬Found=true
Just some of the things that makes me have the opinions that I do. I do not look down on anyone that spanks their children, it is just not the way I choose to discipline children.