I wonder how Muslims on this forums accept some Hadith. Do you accept those called authentic? Do you use the Quran and common sense? Do you accept those said by an imam or scholar? Or do you reject them all together (or use them only as historical source)?
Some people might already know, I have issues with Hadiths. In the time I was a Muslim, I read some and found some of them (from Sahih Bukhari - called the most "authentic") strange, contradictory or even disturbing.
But then, how do you know which Hadith to trust, if ones from so called authentic book sound false? I'd love to see some answers. Thank you! 
Peace be on you.
1- Holy Quran is the most certain and free of doubt.
2- Sunnah is the continous pactice of the Holy Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be on him) on the Holy Quran.
3- Hadith-s (Ahadith) are the sayings of Holy Prophet (s.a.w.) collected latter. Hadith help explain things. If it contradicts, try to explain in the light of Quran with Taqwa / Piousness, if not possible, leave it. If apparantly a Hadith is weak but is proven by the action of Allah, it is surely true.
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Authenticity of Hadith
Quick examples of Hadith (from Sahih Bukhari volume 7):
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 32 :
Narrated by Sahl bin Sad
Allah's Apostle said, "If at all there is bad omen, it is in the horse, the woman, and the house."
Please read these verses of Holy Quran:
Woman as Mother:
[31:15] And We have enjoined on man concerning his parents — his mother bears him in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning takes two years — ‘Give thanks to Me and to thy parents. Unto Me is the
final return.
Sytem of marraige
[4:2] O ye people! fear your Lord, Who created you from a single soul and created therefrom its mate, and from them twain spread many men and women; and fear Allah, in Whose name you appeal to one another, and fear Him particularly respecting ties of relationship. Verily, Allah watches over you.
Prayer for Spouse
[25:75]And those who say, ‘Our Lord, grant us of our wives[1] and children the delight of our eyes, and make us a model for the righteous.
[1]- words used in verse is ‘azwajayna’ it also means ‘our spouses’; both pray for each other.
Seek Spouse and Worldly Means for Piousness
[3:15] Beautified for men is the love of desired things — women and children, and stored-up heaps of gold and silver, and pastured horses and cattle and crops. That is the provision of the present life; but it is Allah with Whom is an excellent home.
[3:16] Say, ‘Shall I inform you of something better than that?’ For those who fear God, there are Gardens with their Lord, beneath which rivers flow; therein shall they abide; and pure spouses and Allah’s pleasure. And Allah is Mindful of His servants,
[3:17] Those who say, ‘Our Lord, we do believe; forgive us, therefore, our sins and save us from the punishment of the Fire;’
[3:18] The steadfast, and the truthful, and the humble, and those who spend in the way of God, and those who seek forgiveness in the latter part of the night.
Search results from alislam.org/Quran
Now please read the above hadith in the context of all these verses, in which woman is given grand status. Hadith may be part of larger conversation it only may mean that one should have family life for the sake of godliness otherwise these same system may turn into troubles and growing pains; broken families, single parents, promiscuousness etc are some of the consequences of wrong approaches.
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 64 :
Narrated by 'Aisha
That the Prophet married her when she was six years old and he consummated his marriage when she was nine years old, and then she remained with him for nine years (i.e., till his death).
== Arabs did not use calendars, years dates as in these times, they were unlettered. Thus 2 or 3 years error is possible. Modern research tells, female can reach adulthood by 9. Some reports are of age 12. Hot climate is much different than cold one.
== Before Hardwicke's Marriage Act of 1753 there was no lower legal age of marriage, except during the 1650's when it was 16 for men and 14 for women. ...
www.british-genealogy.com/forums/archive/index.php/t-1969.html
== English common law, and early American law : In the early 1800's fathers could contract their daughters to marriage as early as age 12 and there was no consent on her part. Boys had to be 14 before they could enter into a marriage contract.
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== Holy Prophet (s.a.w.) whole life was well known, he would not have done any thing incorrect as it is made to appear these days.
== Hadhrat Aisha (r.a.)’s extremely pious father Hazrat Abu Bakr (r.a.). was the most beloved companion of Holy Prophet (s.a.w.). As a corollary, it is to be noted that it is a plus that pre-presence of genuine respect and affection between bride’s father and bridegroom (in fact parents of bride to bridegroom and parents of bridegroom to bride) strongly helps in latter strong and healthy matrimonial relation; Hazrat Aisha r.a. was the beloved wife of Holy Prophet (s.a.w.); she was very intelligent, she learned from him very much and continued to educate the faithful. Her ever-matchless words about her husband (s.a.w.) still stand at heavens height:
“kana kholokohul Quran”….i.e His [Holy Prophet (s.a.w.)’s] moral were Quran”. These revered words also show, she was fully satisfied with her husband (s.a.w.)
May Allah bless her soul. Aameen
Volume 7, Book 62, Number 113 :
Narrated by Abu Huraira
Allah's Apostle said, "The woman is like a rib; if you try to straighten her, she will break. So if you want to get benefit from her, do so while she still has some crookedness."
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It is a similitude. Rib protects heart and vital organs. A good wife cares her husband in all manners and likewise husband is advised to be careful towards her, she has her emotions. It was a delicate advice covered in the pious-romance. Once Holy Prophet s.a.w. said women are like glass vessels. (Delicacy and containment)
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Women in Islam
