You know, my best friend pointed something out to me today. I've been changing the way I put myself out there to people- especially potential friends.
In the past, I've always been very guarded. I never really let anyone in that closely to me. I swallowed my problems and just dealt with everything on my own.
The past few times I've made friends, I've put a whole lot of myself out there. This has had mixed results.
I have a lot of problems... And it's a sure way to scare someone off by unloading some of those problems for them to see. In one case I've made a damn good friend who has been there for me, in another I made a friend of a sort, but she blocked me off from taking it past anything more than just as an acquaintance.
I'm not sure it's such a bad thing to let my vulnerabilities show a little, though... I find I would rather come to know if someone is down to earth than to just have one more fair weather friend.
I dunno... It's all new ground for me. I feel that in acknowledging and respecting my issues, it gives them a face for me to conquer, and it makes me a stronger person in general.
Should I reel myself back a little, or is my time too valuable to waste on people who I don't think are meaningful friends to have?
In the past, I've always been very guarded. I never really let anyone in that closely to me. I swallowed my problems and just dealt with everything on my own.
The past few times I've made friends, I've put a whole lot of myself out there. This has had mixed results.
I have a lot of problems... And it's a sure way to scare someone off by unloading some of those problems for them to see. In one case I've made a damn good friend who has been there for me, in another I made a friend of a sort, but she blocked me off from taking it past anything more than just as an acquaintance.
I'm not sure it's such a bad thing to let my vulnerabilities show a little, though... I find I would rather come to know if someone is down to earth than to just have one more fair weather friend.
I dunno... It's all new ground for me. I feel that in acknowledging and respecting my issues, it gives them a face for me to conquer, and it makes me a stronger person in general.
Should I reel myself back a little, or is my time too valuable to waste on people who I don't think are meaningful friends to have?