Do You Expect Everyone to Like You?

[ChristineES]

I used to hear about tolerance- it seems like a good thing- always has. But people are starting to want more. It isn't enough to have people just tolerate them, they want everyone to accept them- and to be their friend. That is a lovely thought- something in an ideal world. But this world is anything but ideal- people dislike others for any infinite reasons. People who are totally in shape might dislike people who are out of shape and maybe overweight. People might dislike people who are drug addicts and alcoholics and those who used to be addicts dislike people who are still addicts. Some people of religion dislike people of other religion. Some people of one lifestyle might dislike people of another lifestyle. some nasty people dislike super nice people. Some people dislike others "just because".
I was taught as a child that not everyone was going to like me- and not everyone has. I don't lose any sleep on anyone who dislikes me, even if it for a really stupid reason.

There are wars, feuds, etc. all over the world because of things like this and others- and infinite amount of others. Try to be realistic. People have no right to harass others and harm others, but that doesn't mean they can be forced to like others.

We all hope for things to improve with time, however.

Peace and Long Life- Christine.

 

[savagewind]

I think the title is an amazing exaggeration. "Expect"? "Everyone"?

I do not expect anyone to like me. I do not even "expect" my husband and children to like me. I hope they do. And I treat them and others so that they might have reason to like me.

I think I understand your question though.

Realizing everyone is made in the image of God and that all God made is good, I "expect" everyone to love me and I live so that it is not impossible to do so. But like? Like is very different than love. If I expected even nearly everyone, or even half of all the people I meet to "like" me I'd be a sorry sorry soul. LOL

 

[ChristineES]

I think the title is an amazing exaggeration. "Expect"? "Everyone"?

I do not expect anyone to like me. I do not even "expect" my husband and children to like me. I hope they do. And I treat them and others so that they might have reason to like me.

I think I understand your question though.

Realizing everyone is made in the image of God and that all God made is good, I "expect" everyone to love me and I live so that it is not impossible to do so. But like? Like is very different than love. If I expected even nearly everyone, or even half of all the people I meet to "like" me I'd be a sorry sorry soul. LOL

The question was supposed to be worded as an exaggeration. It isn't very common, but I think there are a small group of people who believe everyone is supposed to like them. I wanted to bring that into focus.

The question is supposed to promote thinking: People, even those you like, aren't always going to like you.

 

[InChrist]

I think when a person expects everyone to like them it leads to the wrong focus of becoming too concerned with pleasing men instead of God. When the focus is on pleasing God first then one will treat others with respect and live as peaceably as possible with others.

 

[ChristineES]

I think when a person expects everyone to like them it leads to the wrong focus of becoming too concerned with pleasing men instead of God. When the focus is on pleasing God first then one will treat others with respect and live as peaceably as possible with others.

That is very true. I am not speaking to only Christians but that is one thing that a Christian need keep in mind.

 

[savagewind]

I think there are a small group of people who believe everyone is supposed to like them

I apologize that it sounded like criticism. It is a good thinking question.

Do you think there are people who expect to be liked by everyone? I have never imagined there are people who believe that is possible.

 

[savagewind]

On the other hand I believe there are many people who will not do something on purpose that they reckon will cause disapproval.

 

[Sunstone]

I don't expect anyone to like me. It's my way of cutting down on the holiday cards I've got to mail.

 

[Desert Snake]

I expect everyone to like me.

 

[Sunstone]

I expect everyone to like me.

Spoken like a man who mails a lot of holiday cards each year.

 

[ChristineES]

I don't expect anyone to like me. It's my way of cutting down on the holiday cards I've got to mail.

I hate to break this to you, but it is those who don't expect anyone to like them who actually have the most people who do like them. No one likes someone who is presumptious.

 

[savagewind]

I expect everyone to like me.

I like you disciple. But I think it is because you visit my threads and comment. I do not know if I would like you if you did not.

I like you too Christine!

I do not care if anyone likes me. If I cared I could not tell the truth. But I do use discretion. And if I cared too much it would make me very sad. I would much rather be happy.

 

[Desert Snake]

I like you disciple. But I think it is because you visit my threads and comment. I do not know if I would like you if you did not.

why wouldn't you like me.

 

[savagewind]

why wouldn't you like me.

I do like you. LOL

 

[ChristineES]

I like nearly everyone at RF and even those who disagree with me on a regular basis. I respect all of you, for the most part, but...

 

[Horrorble]

I really don't expect anyone to like me cause quite frankly I'm a snob myself

 

[Penumbra]

I'm kind of a b-word to people in general and don't really expect to be liked too much, so in the event that someone likes me, I find it amusing and we may get along pretty well.

I'm not going to send any holiday cards to them though. Screw that.

 

[Tarheeler]

Nope.

I'm abrasive, grumpy, and don't pick up social ques very well.
I fully expect most people to simply tolerate me, and for some to really dislike me.

 

[Revoltingest]

I expect everyone to like me.
And I'm correct about 2% of the time.

 

[dust1n]

Do You Expect Everyone to Like You?

No.


I expect them to adore me.