I was watching a movie "Kiss Me First" on Netflix. There's a scene where a teen listens to he father beat on his mother. You hear a lot of banging, crashing, a woman crying out in pain.
The scene seemed cliche/foreign to me. So I was curious at how common spousal abuse actually was. Turn out 1 in 5 women and 1 in 7 men experience severe physical abuse.
One in five women are hit with a fist or something hard, slammed, kicked, burned, choked, beaten, or incidents involving a weapon.
The reason why women suffer abuse more is explained thusly,
Still, women are more often victims and men are more often perpetrators. How do we explain this imbalance? Biological differences between the genders offers a better explanation.
Male brains have less connectivity in their brain wiring, giving them a lower ability to regulate emotions like hurt, sadness, and fear. Consequently, stressors like relationship conflict are more likely to come out as the outward facing emotions of anger or rage, and these can be destructive. Partners hold a unique power to stir feelings of inadequacy or questions about lovability, and therefore receive the brunt of the harm.
When our emotions become turbulent, our human tendency is to try to regain that control. Men are also less adept with words, so they are prone to “use what you got” and resort to physical means of control. Again, this is an explanation of the gender imbalance we see in the domestic violence statistics, not justification or permission.
Domestic violence statistics | Emotional abuse statistics | Gender equity
Does this explanation seem accurate to you? Are men simply less able to deal with turbulent emotions than women?
While I can't argue with the statistics violent spousal abuse is not part of my experience but it means someone I know likely suffers from it. Why aren't I more aware of it? Am I ignorant and blind or is it that people are so ashamed of it that we hide it an never talk about it?
I'll admit to the ignorance but blind? I'd think I would be aware of this kind of abuse on some level. What am I missing?
The scene seemed cliche/foreign to me. So I was curious at how common spousal abuse actually was. Turn out 1 in 5 women and 1 in 7 men experience severe physical abuse.
One in five women are hit with a fist or something hard, slammed, kicked, burned, choked, beaten, or incidents involving a weapon.
The reason why women suffer abuse more is explained thusly,
Still, women are more often victims and men are more often perpetrators. How do we explain this imbalance? Biological differences between the genders offers a better explanation.
Male brains have less connectivity in their brain wiring, giving them a lower ability to regulate emotions like hurt, sadness, and fear. Consequently, stressors like relationship conflict are more likely to come out as the outward facing emotions of anger or rage, and these can be destructive. Partners hold a unique power to stir feelings of inadequacy or questions about lovability, and therefore receive the brunt of the harm.
When our emotions become turbulent, our human tendency is to try to regain that control. Men are also less adept with words, so they are prone to “use what you got” and resort to physical means of control. Again, this is an explanation of the gender imbalance we see in the domestic violence statistics, not justification or permission.
Domestic violence statistics | Emotional abuse statistics | Gender equity
Does this explanation seem accurate to you? Are men simply less able to deal with turbulent emotions than women?
While I can't argue with the statistics violent spousal abuse is not part of my experience but it means someone I know likely suffers from it. Why aren't I more aware of it? Am I ignorant and blind or is it that people are so ashamed of it that we hide it an never talk about it?
I'll admit to the ignorance but blind? I'd think I would be aware of this kind of abuse on some level. What am I missing?