Drolefille
PolyPanGeekGirl
Dating only people of the opposite sex cuts your dating partners in half though right? Should everyone be bisexual/pansexual?I don't think that good relationships are built on the idea of being fullfilled by someone else, becoming fullfilled wthiin one's self, and then bringingthat to share with someone else as a benefit to them. Along the way we find ourselves reaping the benefits they want to bring to us. I think an open relaionship where you date only others who also want an open relationship is limiting your choice of prospective partners to a point that will reduce the qualities to chose from in another person that are importand to you. This seems to be a set up for failure and lonliness.
This doesn't make logical sense to me as people who are in open relationships have quite obviously found other people who are into being in open relationships. Facebook has it as an option as a relationship status for example. If gay and lesbian people make up ~10% of the population and manage to date each other, I think people in open relationships are going to do ok.
Jealousy - If it's a problem that can't be dealt with fairly easily, one shouldn't be in an open relationship. Or one should only be in an open relationship where the rules will preclude any situations of jealousy.I also see problems with jealousy, family, social occaisons, confusion in the children, and sexual confusion for adolescents raised with parents of open relationship.
Family - Family doesn't have to know, or they can and they'll deal with it or not as needed. Interracial dating might cause problems with family too, but that's not a good argument for segregation.
Social occasions: A person can bring a primary partner, or no partner or both partners (or what have you) depending on the occasion. Same-sex couples can be 'awkward' in social occasions, but if you're proud of your relationship you deal with it. If you have to hide it, you do.
Confusion in children: Children are generally confused about how grown-up things work, and then they learn. What one teaches one's kids generally reflects one's values. Children may or may not be aware of their parents' relationship depending on the form it takes.
Sexual confusion for adolescents: I don't understand why?