@stvdv At Romans 10: 13-18 the apostle Paul wrote...
"for “Whoever will call on the name of the Lord will be saved.”
14 How then will they call on Him in whom they have not believed? How will they believe in Him whom they have not heard? And how will they hear without a preacher? 15 How will they preach unless they are sent? Just as it is written, “How beautiful are the feet of those who bring good news of good things!”
16 However, they did not all heed the good news; for Isaiah says, “Lord, who has believed our report?” 17 So faith comes from hearing, and hearing by the word of Christ.
18 But I say, surely they have never heard, have they? Indeed they have;
“Their voice has gone out into all the earth,
And their words to the ends of the world.” (NASB)
If God has a message that he wants all to hear, he will send out his messengers, and the message will either be accepted or rejected.....but there is obligation on the part of the messenger to speak up, otherwise God will hold them accountable for not delivering his message. It is after all....a life or death situation.
The prophet Ezekiel was told....
“Son of man, I have appointed you a watchman to the house of Israel; whenever you hear a word from My mouth, warn them from Me. 18 When I say to the wicked, ‘You will surely die,’ and you do not warn him or speak out to warn the wicked from his wicked way that he may live, that wicked man shall die in his iniquity, but his blood I will require at your hand. 19 Yet if you have warned the wicked and he does not turn from his wickedness or from his wicked way, he shall die in his iniquity; but you have delivered yourself. 20 Again, when a righteous man turns away from his righteousness and commits iniquity, and I place an obstacle before him, he will die; since you have not warned him, he shall die in his sin, and his righteous deeds which he has done shall not be remembered; but his blood I will require at your hand. 21 However, if you have warned the righteous man that the righteous should not sin and he does not sin, he shall surely live because he took warning; and you have delivered yourself.” (Ezekiel 3:17-21 NASB)
Its not a case of "if" people "want" to hear the message....they may not want to hear it at all, but if you have at least tried to warn the wicked, or even those who assume that they are correct in their understanding but have completely missed the point, it is fulfilling your obligation to God and to our neighbors. So, it is the message itself that condemns them if they reject it. They have not accepted or rejected the messengers, but the one who sent them. (Matthew 24:14)
So, from my perspective, "evangelizing" is getting the message out there.....and "proselytizing" is teaching the responders what God requires of them so that they can make an informed decision about their future, based on accurate knowledge, not just on emotion or the opinion of others.
If what we choose to believe is not what God teaches, and his message means nothing to us, then it matters little about how much we love it or feel comfortable with our own preferences....we must change our thinking to suit God, because he will never change his truth to suit us.