Okay, I am glad to be able to read everyone's thoughts on this matter. I wish you all the best. This will be my last visit to this forum as I have a wonderful baby daughter and it makes me sick when I look at her to think of all the sweet babies like her who have been murdered by abortion. I know I have learned a lot and I hope I have helped someone else in some way. I would rather actually go out and help people who are in this situation than sit and type about it, and that's what I'm going to do. So here is what I have to say on the matter:
When it comes to abortion I have said it before and I will say it again. Rape, incest, risks to the mother, and physical deformity account for less than 7% of all abortions performed in the U.S. today. In fact, before the decision Roe V. Wade legalized all abortions for any reason for all 9 months of pregnancy, it was already legal to abort in certain cases due to severe deformity, risks and the like. Personally I believe that rape is no reason to kill an innocent child. It is not a quick fix, it does have severe psychological after effects on the mother, and it is still the gruesome murder of a healthy developing child whom somebody would love to raise. Yes rape is a horrible evil and shouldn't happen, but is not the child's fault! Many women have kept a child produced from rape and said that they felt something good had come from something very bad, and just as many have had abortions because of rape and regretted it for the rest of their lives.
As for deformity, that is something that shouldn't be taken lightly. If any person is suffering horribly the decision should always be carefully considered as to whethere ending their life would be best for THEM. Abortion is not a painless or safe way to end a life, either, look at the procedures they do! Too often deformed children are able to live and yet are aborted because no one is willing to take special care of them like they need, and I think that is a sad statement on humanity. Yes, my husband and I are willing to adopt a deformed or challenged child in the future, and we plan on it.
As for severe risks to the mother's life, it is very rare and also very rare that abortion is going to decrease those risks in the long run. (please visit nrlc.org for more info on this)Anyway it is a horrible situation to be in to have to choose between one life and another, not something that should be taken lightly!
Personally I would choose my child's life over mine, if it came to that, but I don't believe abortion should be outlawed in very specific cases such as this, though it is still a terrible thing.
As for birth control, I still say that abstinence is the only way for non-married people. First off, every method of birth control has risks to your health and to a possible child's health (except the rythm method). Anyone who has sex needs to understand that it's whole biological purpose is for reproduction, and be willing to face the consequences that may result. People are seperate from animals in that they can control themselves! It may not be easy, but it is certainly easier if you stay away from drunken parties and situations where you may be tempted to lose control. My personal belief is that you should not get physical with anyone unless you are willing to commit and be partners with them for life.
Another sad comment I want to share is that who says it's really a woman's choice anyway? There are many many cases every day when a woman or girl is pressured to have an abortion by her family, her boyfriend, or people she turns to for help, even if she would rather keep her child.
And here is a question for all of you, what about the father? Why is it that he has no rights? It is biologically his child just as much as it is hers. I have a friend who's girlfriend went and had an abortion without even telling him. He never got over it. He would have loved to raise that child himself and now he always wonders whether it was a boy or girl, and how it would've been.
I encourage everyone to help women who are thinking about having an abortion. Tell them what it is, tell them they don't have to do it, that there are other options, let them tell you their fears. Be kind. Being pregnant is scary at first! I know! But the result can be so beautiful.
Look up abortion for yourselves, look at the pictures for yourself, it is not a lump of tissue we're talking about here. Think of all the childless couples waiting on waiting lists for precious babies who aren't there because somebody decided they should be torn apart and torn out of the world.
Who are we to make that decision. If life is not precious in all it's forms, then none of us are precious. And yet I think we all are. God loves all of you.
Good will to all.
Johnny's girl
