So, a common theme in many religions is obedience to the will of God
For instance the word "Islam" translates into "submission to the will of God"
And if you look at the bible (both the NT and the Hebrew Scriptures) it is clear that God wants to be obeyed
But why?
What does he get out of it?
Or does he insist that we obey him because he knows what's truly best for us?
Or is it all just made up by humans, as a kind of social mind-control?
I think the questions would have different context if you spoke of god not as a person but as an idea. Instead of "what does he get out of it?" maybe more "What is the reason behind X teaching 'about' god's laws?"
Instead of "he insist we obey him" which makes him a being, entity, or person dictating things and laws apart or not dependent as a ghost in the sky. Maybe more "what is best for me 'according to' what's written by scripture."
When you change god from being a person who can do and think and punish or so have you and make "god's voice" based on your experiences, you can say instead.... according to my experiences, I'm called to obey. According to my experiences, I want to or called to be submissive to god (not because he verbally said so). According to my experiences in god, I know what's best for me.
It makes god into an experience-something that keeps you going and something you tap into (say christians say about love and grace) not a person/entity/being/a god that can dictate what you do/say/feel. THAT is what makes people loose their faith, confuse, ask questions, and so forth. It's how people teach the bible more so than going by the experiences (say the holy spirit) in which god's "voice" talks through and by.
These are my thoughts about it. As for belief, that's a totally different matter.