• Welcome to Religious Forums, a friendly forum to discuss all religions in a friendly surrounding.

    Your voice is missing! You will need to register to get access to the following site features:
    • Reply to discussions and create your own threads.
    • Our modern chat room. No add-ons or extensions required, just login and start chatting!
    • Access to private conversations with other members.

    We hope to see you as a part of our community soon!

I Don't Do Funerals.

Jean-Pierre Chatelaine

Jean-Pierre Chatelaine

Indigo Guy.
Unless it involves a very close family member.

Sitting in a church with a very expensive box containing rotting flesh parked in the front, isn't my bag. Listening to a preacher who in most cases knows very little about the person whose life force has left their body saying nice things about the corpse, makes me wanna barf.

In my opinion the best way to get closure is the route I and my partner have decided to go. When one of us leaves our body permanently, the one surviving will have the corpse placed the a cheap Pine coffin with rope handles and send it to the crematorium for cremation. Then a few days later family and friends can gather at our house where we will share a meal & celebrate the life of the person no longer on earth.

QED.
 
Revoltingest

Revoltingest

Pragmatic Libertarian
Premium Member
Some people need funerals. I don't
I do them for one reason....to stay married.
Mrs Revolt is much more observant of social conventions than I.
It's the only reason I even went to my own father's funeral.
 
BSM1

BSM1

What? Me worry?
Jean-Pierre Chatelaine said:
Unless it involves a very close family member.

Sitting in a church with a very expensive box containing rotting flesh parked in the front, isn't my bag. Listening to a preacher who in most cases knows very little about the person whose life force has left their body saying nice things about the corpse, makes me wanna barf.

In my opinion the best way to get closure is the route I and my partner have decided to go. When one of us leaves our body permanently, the one surviving will have the corpse placed the a cheap Pine coffin with rope handles and send it to the crematorium for cremation. Then a few days later family and friends can gather at our house where we will share a meal & celebrate the life of the person no longer on earth.

QED.
Click to expand...

People grieve in different ways, and to each his own, but I agree with your sentiments. I have (or continue to) written my own eulogy and I am recording myself delivering it on a CD so I know it will be delivered the way I want. My wife and I also want to be cremated and the survivor will carry a small locket of ashes with them. My daughter-in-law's dad had played in local bands since his teens. When he died last year she had a catered afternoon jam party and invited many of his friends, family, and old band members. The food and the stories were great, and the old rockers played their hearts out. This is what he wanted and this is exactly what I am going to if I should ever die.
 
Vinayaka

Vinayaka

devotee
Premium Member
I go ... social convention, and I use it as an opportunity to study people ... amazing what you can learn about others, and as a consequence, yourself. It's especially a study of attachment/detachment as well as an opportunity to practice detachment.
 
D

Deidre

Well-Known Member
I don't 'like' them either, but I went to my grandmother's recently, and it was quite moving and beautiful. I will hold the memories of it forever. Funerals in some ways, are a way to come together with others, and mourn together. And also to celebrate the life of the person, together. I'm not sure I want one for myself, though tbh. :/
 
Marisa

Marisa

Well-Known Member
I think funerals are more for the survivors of the deceased than about the deceased themselves. I've left strict instructions with my loved ones that they are to do with my remains whatever gives them comfort. If that's gathering and oobie-sabooble-ing me, fine, it can't mean anything to me. I wouldn't mind being compressed into a diamond and passed down through my descendants. Or being used as plant fertilizer. Or shot into space.
 
Marisa

Marisa

Well-Known Member
Uberpod said:
Will you people be attending your own funerals??
Click to expand...
People are funny, y'know. When my mom died she left pretty strict instructions: no religious observances of any kind, and family only graveside. People were so pissed off that they couldn't come to the graveside service that they had no problem informing myself and her husband that they'd refuse to come to the viewing if they couldn't come to the graveside. My uncle (her brother) almost crawled out of his skin trying to bully me and my stepdad into lifting this sanction and allowing one of the brothers from his church to officiate. My mom was very well known in her community and had a large family, all of whom professed to adore her. Not so much, I guess.

{I don't mean to bash anyone except perhaps the individuals I'm talking about}
 
dust1n

dust1n

Zindīq
I guess if my family wants to observe my body's learning autopsy to a most-likely-high sophomoric medical student, that would be okay.
 
oldbadger

oldbadger

Skanky Old Mongrel!
Jean-Pierre Chatelaine said:
Unless it involves a very close family member.

Sitting in a church with a very expensive box containing rotting flesh parked in the front, isn't my bag. Listening to a preacher who in most cases knows very little about the person whose life force has left their body saying nice things about the corpse, makes me wanna barf.

In my opinion the best way to get closure is the route I and my partner have decided to go. When one of us leaves our body permanently, the one surviving will have the corpse placed the a cheap Pine coffin with rope handles and send it to the crematorium for cremation. Then a few days later family and friends can gather at our house where we will share a meal & celebrate the life of the person no longer on earth.

QED.
Click to expand...

When an old friend of mine died...... as per his orders, he was placed in a cardboard (Yep!) coffin and taken to the crematorium by van. Then his ashes were taken to his favourite canoeing/camping lake and scattered.
Way to go.........

Another of my mates built his own final-journey model Viking ship, and his ashes, plus a load of fire-lighters were placed on board, ignited and pushed out to sea with an offshore wind........... bloody amazing!
 
lewisnotmiller

lewisnotmiller

Grand Hat
Staff member
Premium Member
They do me no favours. However, I hope that people attend my funeral (using the term very loosely here) and support my wife and kids on the day (I'm sure I'll go first...lol). With that in mind I attend my share of funerals and push the personal discomfort away.

That personal discomfort runs the full range from mild to extreme, dependent on the nature of the service, the nature of the person, and the match between the two (or lack thereof).
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Top