Moderation in all things.
God said "go forth and multiply." The Catholics misinterpreted that as "have as many babies as possible." That leads to unattended babies and overpopulation, and God is not an idiot. Rather, "go forth and multiply" (which was said when Adam and Eve were kicked out of Eden for tasting the forbidden fruit of knowledge, and, for the first time, found themselves ashamed of their nudity, means don't be ashamed of having sex with your mate.
Men and women were made for mating. Although, I think that the forbidden fruit of knowledge in Eden was carnal knowledge (that is, the knowledge of mating). But that begs the question why God made men and women with organs capable of mating, then told them not to mate in Eden. It seems as though God put temptation in their way. So, it was not just the snake who tempted them, God also tempted them, then punished them for indulging in that temptation.
While normal sex and normal temptation is a fact of life around us, there are some around us who practice far worse (torture, bondage (sometimes not consensual), and mutilation). Sometimes sexual organs are tied off (sadism), and often under-aged minors find themselves bound, gagged, with their sexual organs strangled to the point of gangrene and amputation (or death). Sometimes their captors prefer murder and burial in a field rather than getting caught or paying for sexual favors.
Drugs are at the root of much of prostitution. Drug pushers pretend to be good and generous friends who give free addicting narcotics to those whom they want to control. Sometimes those are also laced with date-rape drugs to make their innocent victims do things that they ordinarily would not do. They soon find themselves addicted, and the free narcotics is now very expensive. Some burglarize to earn the money, while others sell their bodies to multiple elderly sex partners to earn the cash to get through another drug crazed night. Burned out, drinking booze out of a bottle in a paper bag on skid row (or similar location), these former drug addicts and prostitutes constitute a far number of the homeless. Their own families refuse to take them back because they victimize their own families.
Horrible child rapists, then run free, their addicted victims, too scared to turn them in. Some 12 year old girls, too addicted to stay out of prison and too addicted to keep their kids after being arrested, still have the maternal instinct, and still love their kids (or unborn kids), so they tread lightly around their drug addict boyfriends (who also sexually abuse them), for fear that they will lose their babies and their freedom (locked in the local constabulary).
Compare the lifestyle above with say the Amish culture. While it is true that often Amish teens quit the religion and are allowed to by their religion (to go wild and become prostitutes, then return to the religion). Mostly those who adhere to their religion (or go wild then come back) are good upstanding citizens. Although the Amish life is a bit stoic for most to endure.
There are religions that are not as extreme, and if the precepts of those religions are followed, the followers lead normal and happy lives.
I think that the goal should be to stay with a spouse, though almost impossible in today's serially monogamous society. It would be nice to have a quiet home in a quiet neighborhood, with a white picket fence, and good and caring neighbors who live a similar life.
Knowing what God wants, and following God are two different things. After all, there are Satan spewing preachers, like Reverend John Hagee, who tell us to pray to Jesus to help us win a war in Iraq. They don't have a clue about God's requirements. In Revelation, God ordered that we must not attack Iraq, and said "thou shalt not kill" and "thou must not bear false witness against thy neighbor" (remember the playing cards that W. Bush made calling their so-called enemy the doctor of death). God told us to turn the other cheek. So, we know what God wanted us to do, but few followed God when things got difficult (911 attack). Faith was lost....supplanted by greed and fear.