Anthem
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An incomplete, hurried and incomprehensible description of my marriage. I married (islamic marriage alone - not legally binding in my country) a muslim a couple months ago after knowing him for a week.
Yes, laugh, but then retain seriousness.
I really enjoyed being with him for the three days before he ever mentioned this islam ****.
And at first it was just the marriage because he wanted to have sex - and so did I.
Nothing else but the marriage, he says; we don't beed to live together, I don't need to wear a ring, or anything ....we just go on normal, like dating.
But after we get married... then he starts talking about us living together - right away. It would be a great insult of course of me to not think of us as married, me not wearing a ring or not wanting to live with him. He said I'm a bad wife.
(And my thoughts go like - "did you hear that, a WIFE! )
Then he started spending nights at my place (occasionally, perfectly fine by me), he started critizising my home. The cleanliness. Subjective all but i dare say I'm pretty clean. Disorderly in many ways but clean. And hell I cleaned the apartment before he ever stepped into it because i guessed he has high standards.. but no. I cannot wash the dishes right, i dont do my laundry (and his) often enough
(I have a full time job - he goes to school (the easiest school in the country) a few hours a day)
I walk in my home with my shoes on. I don't gather my beddings into one big bunch in the morning (looks nice but hygienically not recommended - i told him but he doesn't have ears for science), i don't wash the dishes immediately after eating (i do when he's there he likes it- but i wouldn't; I'm just a filthy christian) i don't cook (the foods i offer to cook he doesnt want (((pickyyyyy))).
It all started to come out one by one so I told him to tell me all. Tell me everything he has in his mind about me and my doing that he doesn't like. And he says there is nothing. Everything's great. Just this one thing; dont walk with your shoes on where I pray (one room flat) and I say okay......
Dont even think of stepping inside with one foot with your shoes on.
As if you ever cooked
You need to wash this - there's a stain
You need to stop taking vitamines - they are bad for you. I never took any, I'm healthy
Don't believe doctors - mohammad wrote the Quran in 600AC. Everything is in the quran.
Read the Quran
(I started reading the Quran with translation of meanings and commentary)
Study arabic
(I study arabic. I Really want to go on studying other languages and reading other books i enjoy reading but...)
Read about Islam. You don't know what day it is? Why not? Why haven't you looked it up? I'm a muslim. I'm your husband.
(I ask him in the library if i should take some of these books about islam he says irritated, "no, not here." I read about it online and "consult him" and he gets irritated again, "don't read these. They're wrong." I ask what should I read? He says the quran. It has all that you need to know.)
These last few days, I hate him. I hate everything about him. Everything he says and does. Ugh, disgusting. But I don't know if I should leave him or not. When we fight he always returns to that nothing is wrong, everything is perfect - I can do whatever I want. But the NEXT day......
Don't don't don't don't
Why? Because it "isn't good".
Do do do do do do this this this this
Yes, laugh, but then retain seriousness.
I really enjoyed being with him for the three days before he ever mentioned this islam ****.
And at first it was just the marriage because he wanted to have sex - and so did I.
Nothing else but the marriage, he says; we don't beed to live together, I don't need to wear a ring, or anything ....we just go on normal, like dating.
But after we get married... then he starts talking about us living together - right away. It would be a great insult of course of me to not think of us as married, me not wearing a ring or not wanting to live with him. He said I'm a bad wife.
(And my thoughts go like - "did you hear that, a WIFE! )
Then he started spending nights at my place (occasionally, perfectly fine by me), he started critizising my home. The cleanliness. Subjective all but i dare say I'm pretty clean. Disorderly in many ways but clean. And hell I cleaned the apartment before he ever stepped into it because i guessed he has high standards.. but no. I cannot wash the dishes right, i dont do my laundry (and his) often enough
(I have a full time job - he goes to school (the easiest school in the country) a few hours a day)
I walk in my home with my shoes on. I don't gather my beddings into one big bunch in the morning (looks nice but hygienically not recommended - i told him but he doesn't have ears for science), i don't wash the dishes immediately after eating (i do when he's there he likes it- but i wouldn't; I'm just a filthy christian) i don't cook (the foods i offer to cook he doesnt want (((pickyyyyy))).
It all started to come out one by one so I told him to tell me all. Tell me everything he has in his mind about me and my doing that he doesn't like. And he says there is nothing. Everything's great. Just this one thing; dont walk with your shoes on where I pray (one room flat) and I say okay......
Dont even think of stepping inside with one foot with your shoes on.
As if you ever cooked
You need to wash this - there's a stain
You need to stop taking vitamines - they are bad for you. I never took any, I'm healthy
Don't believe doctors - mohammad wrote the Quran in 600AC. Everything is in the quran.
Read the Quran
(I started reading the Quran with translation of meanings and commentary)
Study arabic
(I study arabic. I Really want to go on studying other languages and reading other books i enjoy reading but...)
Read about Islam. You don't know what day it is? Why not? Why haven't you looked it up? I'm a muslim. I'm your husband.
(I ask him in the library if i should take some of these books about islam he says irritated, "no, not here." I read about it online and "consult him" and he gets irritated again, "don't read these. They're wrong." I ask what should I read? He says the quran. It has all that you need to know.)
These last few days, I hate him. I hate everything about him. Everything he says and does. Ugh, disgusting. But I don't know if I should leave him or not. When we fight he always returns to that nothing is wrong, everything is perfect - I can do whatever I want. But the NEXT day......
Don't don't don't don't
Why? Because it "isn't good".
Do do do do do do this this this this