I'm re-reading a good book called Open to Desire by Mark Epstein, M.D. that discusses how we possibly could be setting ourselves up for failure in the long run when we take great pains to eliminate all desire (sensual and sexual) from our surroundings and pysche.
From the book:
Is Dr. Epstein mistaken? Or is he on to something? How effective are the kinds of ahimsa and limitations and "thou shalt not's" are we when we demonize and run away from our desires?
From the book:
Many sincere people drawn to Eastern spirituality are in danger of throwing the baby out with the bathwater. In identifying the cause fo suffering as desire, they struggle to eliminate it from their being. A number of these people have come to consult me, wondering why their spiritual pursuits have nto brought them the peace of mind they were expecting. To sit with them in a room is to feel people not quite at peace with themselves. There can be a closed, anxious or fearful quality underlying the way they express themselves. When they become more honest about their desires, a different feeling emerges. They become more present, alive, open, and tender. The brittleness disappears. It becomes easier to breathe. All of the feelings that I associate with meditation, that I want to make accessible to people through the medium of psychotherapy, open up when people become able to treat their desires as their own.
Is Dr. Epstein mistaken? Or is he on to something? How effective are the kinds of ahimsa and limitations and "thou shalt not's" are we when we demonize and run away from our desires?