EnhancedSpirit
High Priestess
I'm hoping you feel a little less hostile today. Have you gotten it out of you?IndigoChild said:Too many people breed because they feel they're required to, and if everyone in their life said it was not expected of them, that they would choose not to, because they don't like children. These people are just one of the groups of people who should not be allowed to vomit in the gene pool.
If I ruled the world, breeders and those wanting to raise children would have to be licensed. If they bred without a license, they would be spayed or neutered.
Kat
For 1000's of years, it was believed that children were to be heard and not seen. It is only in the last couple of generations that children have been given a voice. It will take a while to undo 1000's of years of conditioning towards how to raise children.
Jesus made the point 2000 years ago. He said that we must be like children to make it into the kingdom of heaven. He also said do not silence the children and let them come freely to him. But it took some 2000 years for us to get this message.
A person learns how to handle the stress of parenthood through their parents, but don't experience it until they have children of their own. They often don't realize they are making the same mistakes their parents did until it's too late.
My daughter is a spoiled brat at her daddy's house because he gives in to her temper tantrums (she is 3). She acts like an infant, and whines and cries and screams to be heard. At my house she tries to push me sometimes, but I don't let her get her way like that. She is usually very respectful, and acts like a little lady. She loves to help wash dishes and fold clothes. She says some of the most amazing things. But my ex treats her like a baby, so for him, she acts like a baby.
It's very frustrating at times, but everytime I would try to explain to him how his actions were forming her behavior, he would get angry at me and say he didn't want to hear any of my 'psychobabble'. I cannot get him to see what he is doing to our daughter by giving her everything she wants, and giving in to her undesirable behaviors. And there is no way to go back and change it when the kid is older. This is one of the main reasons I left him. I figured I could do better damage control, if I had a seperate space to raise her in.