IndigoChild
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So many parents fail utterly to raise their children because they have been trained by society to treat children the way they would treat cattle or a misbehaving dog: as an animal in need of training. This fails not only because of the resentment of this treatment, but also because adults tend to be hypocrites. The whole "Do as I say, and not as I do" mentality. This mentality DOES NOT WORK. If you want your children to behave, you have to model the behavior you want them to follow, because every moment of life is a teaching. Teaching and learning begins at birth, and never ends... it is not just the job of schools.
The solution: think of children as the human beings they are, with thoughts and feelings of their own. And stop being a hypocrite, if you are one. If you don't know whether or not you are a hypocrite, ask the people who know you for their honest opinion. If they lie, then look inward: if hypocrites anger you so much that you almost go into a screaming rage over them, then you ARE one.
Kat
The solution: think of children as the human beings they are, with thoughts and feelings of their own. And stop being a hypocrite, if you are one. If you don't know whether or not you are a hypocrite, ask the people who know you for their honest opinion. If they lie, then look inward: if hypocrites anger you so much that you almost go into a screaming rage over them, then you ARE one.
Kat