pdoel said:
But see, it's not as black and white as you make it sound. I hear women bashing men all the time, and acting as if most men walk away from such responsibility. Unfortunately, the truth is, there are many men AND women who shirk the responsibility.
Of course. You're absolutely right. There are women whose perceived perogative in life is to torture and punish men however they can, and women who also leave babies in dumpsters or decide to abort their baby late-term if the state lets them.....that is reality at the moment. The reality is that there are men who do, in fact, walk away from this responsibility. The argument, I thought, was that men
should be able to walk away from the responsibility. That is the argument that I part ways with.
There is a difference between debating what does happen and what should happen. I don't believe that women should be able to abandon their babies on a park bench or a dumpster without criminal charges brought against them. I also am personally against abortion, too (although that is a different topic). I am also against a women who abandons her child in the care of the child's father or with another guardian for a certain length of time without some recourse against her, too. Abandonment proves negligence on the part of the parent. Therefore, I am against the mother
or the father abandoning the child without some legal recourse against him or her.
pdoel said:
We always hear the argument that it's the woman's decision because she's the one who deals with the 9 months of pregnancy. Well guess what, 9 months of pregnancy is NOTHING compared to the care it takes to raise a child to adulthood! As if it's a cake walk once those 9 months are over!
I'm sorry. This is kind of preaching to the choir, here.
No counter-point on this one.
pdoel said:
But, as to the responsibility. The sad truth is that there are many people, male AND female who lack the responsibility. Whether it's the financial responsibility, the care, whatever. Too many stories of crack babies being born, parents (mother or father or both) dumping babies in dumpsters, or abusing the children, or locking the child up in a closet. There are men who walk away from a pregnant woman, and women who have babies just to get a government check.
There are WAY too many holes in our system for such things.
I'm not really following you on these points-for-consideration. Can you please offer an explanation on how these horrible crimes against children support the argument for a father to claim emancipation from his child(ren)? If that is your point?
pdoel said:
I would like to see responsibility really become a key factor in all this. I'd like to see some type of government requirement of BOTH parents going through some type of counseling before making the decision of aborting the baby, or the mother deciding to have it against the father's will, etc. I'd like to see both people forced to accept some responsibility for the child they created.
I applaud your passion, but I see the government doing the best they can on this side of a freedom-based Constitution to legislate having both parents taking responsibility for the child they created. Having counseling provided by the government does not provide any type of guarantee that a father and a mother will take responsibility for their child. According to the current standards there is more than one way for a parent to take responsibility for a child:
1) Providing shelter, food, protection, and a means to an education for the child in the custodial parent(s) household.
2) Providing financial assets from a non-custodial parent that support the immediate needs of the child, in the form of money and/or health insurance.
This is the best the government can do under our current provisions. I support this ideal, whether the non-custodial parent is the biological mother or father. If one or both parents willfully shuns the responsibility for the child, negligence is proven, and either that negligent parent should have rights taken away, or they should be correctly penalized (based on the amount of negligence) for the sake of the child.
Peace,
Mystic