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You might feel differently about it if you didn't have the right, and especially if you didn't have the right because you were LDS. If, say, your wife were dying and her brother was allowed into intensive care to see her, but you weren't, or if you had to pay inheritance taxes on the house you owned together.jonny said:I don't see marriage as a right. Maybe he feels the same way. Marriage is just a way for the government to get an extra buck by collecting fees from people. I could care less about what the government says about marriage.
I don't like giving the government control over people's personal relationships. The government shouldn't give out tax breaks and "special rights" because someone is married. The government shouldn't be involved in validating relationships. It isn't its role.MidnightBlue said:You might feel differently about it if you didn't have the right, and especially if you didn't have the right because you were LDS. If, say, your wife were dying and her brother was allowed into intensive care to see her, but you weren't, or if you had to pay inheritance taxes on the house you owned together.
Call it a privilege, if you like; the fact is that heterosexuals have rights or privileges under the law that homosexuals do not have, and the First Presidency has instructed Mormons to lobby their representatives to keep it that way.
When it comes to marriage, there is no seperation of church and state. This is dangerous. The religions of our country have set the standard of governing who can and cannot get married. I say, get religion out of government and get government out of our bedrooms.1887 - Congress passed the Edmunds-Tucker Act, which allowed prosecutors to force polygamist wives to testify against their husbands, and abolished the right of women in Utah to vote.
Flappycat,Flappycat said:Yes, Nutshell; while it's commendable that your organization condemns verbal abuse on this premise, what they say instead can be more offensive than honest and forthright abuse. And, before this discussion becomes completely derailed, I think that the Mormons here would do well to get a nice, close look at ignorant prejudice as seen from the other side before speaking again. It would be hilariously comical if you didn't know they actually believed what they were saying, but, as it is, it's a bit saddening. Does that come pretty close to your feelings? Welcome to our world.
:highfive: Frubals to you, Jonny.jonny said:When it comes to marriage, there is no seperation of church and state. This is dangerous. The religions of our country have set the standard of governing who can and cannot get married. I say, get religion out of government and get government out of our bedrooms.
Thanks for the heads up, jonny. I'll keep that in mind. Too bad I didn't see this post before I asked him for some examples -- for the second time.jonny said:
MidnightBlue said::highfive: Frubals to you, Jonny.
I wish the leadership of the LDS Church felt the same way.
That may be how you think it should be, but the fact remains that the government registers marriages -- those marriages it chooses to register -- and bestows rights and privileges on the parties to those registered marriages.Squirt said:But to me, marriage is a religious institution, not a civil right.
MidnightBlue said:Are you prepared to see married heterosexuals lose those rights and privileges, just to keep homosexuals from gaining them?
Yes, I agree. The government does register marriages. To me, it makes no sense.MidnightBlue said:That may be how you think it should be, but the fact remains that the government registers marriages -- those marriages it chooses to register -- and bestows rights and privileges on the parties to those registered marriages.
No, and that's not what I meant to imply. I believe that homosexuals should have all the civil rights married heterosexual couples have. This would include hospital visitation rights, the right to make important legal decisions on behalf of one's partner, etc. I guess what I'm saying (and evidently I'm not saying it very well) is that to me, marriage should be strictly a religious union between a man and a woman, but the "rights" that go along with it should be offered equally to all people.Are you prepared to see married heterosexuals lose those rights and privileges, just to keep homosexuals from gaining them?
There are two separate rights butting up against each other here. There's the rights of homosexual couples to be granted the same rights and privileges by their government and society as are granted to heterosexual couples. That includes the right to health insurance, custody of children without having to petition to adopt, recognition as closest kin in times of injury and death. There is no legitmate reason why homosexual couples should not be granted these same rights and privileges.MidnightBlue said:That may be how you think it should be, but the fact remains that the government registers marriages -- those marriages it chooses to register -- and bestows rights and privileges on the parties to those registered marriages.
Are you prepared to see married heterosexuals lose those rights and privileges, just to keep homosexuals from gaining them?
I was thinking the same thing, which is why I was trying to tie the derailment in with the main discussion in my above post. Do you think I made a good try at it?nutshell said:I wish a mod would show up. This thread has been shoved off track and it's time to bring it back.
This thread is about picketing religious structures, NOT the LDS/homosexual debate. If you guys and girls wanna talk about the LDS position on homosexuality, start your own thread.
True, and I apologize for participating in the OT debate. The bigotry shown towards Mormons in these "protests" is unacceptable in any context. Whatever issues one may personally have with LDS doctrine it does not justify the behavior of the picketers. And to use this thread to say "now you know how it feels" is utterly ungracious and motivated by hate, not love.nutshell said:I wish a mod would show up. This thread has been shoved off track and it's time to bring it back.
This thread is about picketing religious structures, NOT the LDS/homosexual debate. If you guys and girls wanna talk about the LDS position on homosexuality, start your own thread.
I think that it is a very legitimate thing to point out. Other groups have also had bad confronations with the ignorant or hopelessly bigoted, and the only way for such behavior to be rejected from society is for all groups to 1) understand that the behavior of their harrassers is no more hurtful than that experienced by other minorities and 2) realize that nobody is safe or immune when ignorance and prejudice are allowed to prevail. Do you contest the truth of this? Do you contest its relevance to the OP?lilithu said:And to use this thread to say "now you know how it feels" is utterly ungracious and motivated by hate, not love.
I know exactly who you are. You are a disgraceful person. If I ever think about this again, I will know you as a disgraceful and rather cowardly person who uses the frubal system for "anonymous" abuse. We're all using aliases here. Well, that will be your alias. I know exactly who you are.A kindly fruballer said:You are a jerk and this is the only way I could tell you without you knwoing who i was. ****-off
Flappycat said:I think that it is a very legitimate thing to point out. Other groups have also had bad confronations with the ignorant or hopelessly bigoted, and the only way for such behavior to be rejected from society is for all groups to 1) understand that the behavior of their harrassers is no more hurtful than that experienced by other minorities
nutshell said:I like your first point, flappy. I read a book a few months ago, it was actually a series of essays by a black man in the 18 or early 19 century. He said black slaves had been treated worse than any other group ever in world history. Whether or not this is true is beside the point. Slavery was wrong, no question, but his claim seemed too extreme and alienated me as an audience. I began counting all the other groups in world history who had suffered at the hands of the majority.
Flappycat, I did not challenge you directly when you first introduced the issue of homosexuality into the thread. I'd already butted heads with you on the atheism thread and didn't feel like going at it again so soon. And I also realize that you're coming from personal hurt. Very valid hurt. Nevertheless, you have hijacked this thread in order to spotlight your own issues. I don't deny that the issues are related, and said as much when I said that we are dependant upon each other to preserve our rights. But by focusing on your own hurt here you invalidate the hurt felt by LDS here. The implication is that somehow they deserve this.Flappycat said:I think that it is a very legitimate thing to point out. Other groups have also had bad confronations with the ignorant or hopelessly bigoted, and the only way for such behavior to be rejected from society is for all groups to 1) understand that the behavior of their harrassers is no more hurtful than that experienced by other minorities and 2) realize that nobody is safe or immune when ignorance and prejudice are allowed to prevail. Do you contest the truth of this? Do you contest its relevance to the OP?
I don't believe in Quid Pro Quo. I believe in compassion. If you know what it feels like to have such hatred directed at you as these picketers are doing, and I'm sure you do, then you can draw on that experience to have some compassion for the Mormons who are feeling hurt here, independantly of any other issues you may have with them.Flappycat said:I will sympathize just as soon as I hear that the Church of LDS has a strict policy against interfering with the lives of members of the gay community, whether directly or through the ballot box. Quid Pro Quo.