I'm glad you found the love you needed from the Kami.
Divine love can really make such a difference...
It might surprise you to know, but Ares(or his brother) being autistic doesn't bother me, really. When I knew he was going to be different, I started telling him that we like him the way he is over and over, because I knew he was going to hear a lot in his life that he needed to be something else. I don't want anything for him that he doesn't want for himself(other than perhaps safety). So no, it doesn't sound crazy to me at all when you say to be happy that the kids have autism. I like them the way they are. The things I would change are minor, and always safety related.
I am not sure if I told you how he got his name or not. I was pregnant with him; we had yet to choose a name. We'd gone back and forth over some names, but hadn't chosen one. For a time, I started having dreams about a warrior figure; he started showing up in my meditations as well. I did some research into figures matching the description, and I came upon 'Ares'. I mentioned it to my husband. He shrugged and said "maybe the baby wants to be named Ares". And so it was. I also built quite a relationship with Ares during my pregnancy; he was my guardian.
And then the kid started to resemble his namesake... I wonder about it all sometimes, but have no conclusions.
You know, I don't really want much. I never wanted much in the way of material goods, and the little I did were small(a book here, a dress there). I didn't want degrees, or prestige(waste of time). I didn't need to be best at anything. I think my two biggest wants are friends and community, but I'm working on dropping those wants.
I think I just have to want to be me. After all, I'm stuck with it.
Interesting way to put it. You may not know it, but I still am an Ares devotee.
Perhaps I'll post pictures of my various altars(including his) when my home construction is done(if it ever gets done). Though, I can't say my life is really much of a battlefield. Its a circus. If one steps back for a moment, this stuff is really quite funny.
This is my favorite prayer to Ares, which I think is relevant to the situation:
"Ares, exceeding in strength, chariot-rider, golden-helmed, doughty in heart, shield-bearer, Saviour of cities, harnessed in bronze, strong of arm, unwearying, mighty with the spear, O defence of
Olympus, father of warlike Victory, ally of Themis, stern governor of the rebellious, leader of righteous men, sceptred King of manliness, who whirl your fiery sphere among the planets in their sevenfold courses through the aether wherein your blazing steeds ever bear you above the third firmament of heaven; hear me, helper of men, giver of dauntless youth! Shed down a kindly ray from above upon my life, and strength of war, that I may be able to drive away bitter cowardice from my head and crush down the deceitful impulses of my soul. Restrain also the keen fury of my heart which provokes me to tread the ways of blood-curdling strife. Rather, O blessed one, give you me boldness to abide within the harmless laws of peace, avoiding strife and hatred and the violent fiends of death."