Oh please. Beating your wife is entirely unrelated to adultery.
The Jews, being a single cohesive grouping, married within that grouping and had strict rules on ways of dealing with all issues including matters of marriage and divorce.
Problems within a marriage were talked about in tier level interventions and so matters such as ‘wife beating’ would be talked about and an attempt at mediation would be put in place. The man (typically!) would have to raise a charge as to why he was beating his wife and his wife could raise a defence as to why she thinks or knows he is beating her. A judgement would be made at each level or passed onto a higher level for more serious causes.
Eventually a final ruling would be made which could result in stoning the wife for grave infidelity or the husband imprisoned for outrageous behaviour.
Of course, every effort would previously be made to reach an amicable arrangement since family unity was extremely important to the hewish community.
A woman leaving her marriage might end up destitute, abandoned, alone, divested of her children … since the Jews looked after their own, the woman would only be taken in as a slave to another household or left to become a prostitute or beggar.
It would not be a good look on the nation of Jews if their women were being made into slaves, prostitutes, and beggars.
TODAY the world does not live in a ‘single grouping’ like we see the Jews did (Heathens and Pagan nation behaviours were disregarded for their behaviours in this regard). So all patterns of behaviours are melded together in one boiling pot. We do have mediations for family issues but many people refuse any interference in their family situations and so bad behaviours are hard to attend to if (typically, the man) refuses any accommodation. Perhaps only when things have reached an awful level Will the police authority step in to aid in raising a change against the man or a Good Samaritan organisation step in to aid the woman.
It’s a strange thing to think of why a man seeks to abuse his wife - perhaps he married her too young and she developed into someone who didn’t feel compliant with his idea of a wife; perhaps she married him for wealth or security and found that now gone … there are umpteen reasons … The point is that there is no longer any really effective mediation sessioning and the majority of people seek divorce without any thought of proper reconciliation …
And, of course, the vows to God to live together in sickness or health; in richness or poverty; seeking only to each other in sexual unity; till death … letting no man set them apart - according to God’s good ordinance … no longer has any meaning at all.
It’s just a thing that is said blithely in a wedding ceremony without any real thought of actual adherence.
Lastly, divorce in a community of people is direct violation of ‘one flesh joined to another’. Adultery is a knife slice between the one flesh of the two. Adultery can lead to children being born to the woman by two different men. The Jews are heavy on paternity and passing on the wealth of the Father to his male children. If a mother cannot distinguish which of her children are from which man then there will be serious issues looking forward. A divorce settles the matter unless the man decides to forgive his wife and retain her in the marriage and take on any child from the adultery as his own (perhaps to the horror of his true male heirs!)
