I understand the frustration here. I can only suggest looking past this sort of thing as not reflecting on the religion itself but the, perhaps somewhat inevitable, cultural aspects that will surround worship in many faiths.
I suppose so. Which is why I'm not identifying with the community anymore, but rather quite content going my own way about it. Other Sikhs say that makes me a 'manmukh' or self-oriented, but I'm too sure about the alternative.
I mean Western in a specific sense, I suppose. Plotinus, Aquinas, Eckhart, these men were Western. Western isn't entirely to be equated with a narrow rationalism and empiricism. I did, though, see you use the term WOO in one of the threads here, This is pseudo-sceptical, New Atheist jargon. This isn't, surely, the sort of no-nonsense position of Sikhism. There is much New Age and superstitious nonsense around, but there is a parallel pseudo-sceptical, materialist nonsense as well. Deepak Chopra and Dickie Dawkins are two sides of the same coin.
I'd need to see the thread to explain why I used that term. Usually I use it when describing something pseudo-scientific, or when people are stretching for the mystical when it doesn't really apply.
But surely what matters is the spiritual. I don't think Sikhs want to blow the equality horn in quite the same way as the some today might. Certainly, the recognition of equality is important for Sikhism, but Sikhism is a religion, with eternal, spiritual priorities after all. I am not even sure it is a part of Sikh to remove all cultural and social hierarchy, as opposed to spiritual hierarchy.
On a spiritual level, Sikhi is egalitarian. You won't find discrimination in the Guru Granth Sahib. The mainstream Sikh Code of Conduct is also quite egalitarian; however, the Sikh 'ruling' authority doesn't enforce its own code in the spirit of said code.
Sikhi made a big deal about social equality - removing the caste system (which is still very much present in Punjabi Sikh communities), sitting equally on the floor during langar, etc.
This seems like superstition to me. I can understand you voicing your opposition. If it these sorts of incidents were recurrent in the Gurdwara I would understand leaving it, perhaps. But these sorts of failings are human. Why leave Sikhism entirely?
Because my leaving was due to a combination of factors.
On a spiritual level I've found that no other religion makes as much philosophical sense and speaks to my spirit like Sikhi does. So I suppose I could be described as 'Sikh at heart'. But I'm done trying to be a part of it. I'm happy to lurk on the fringe.