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Hating yourself leads to hating others. Agree? Vote.

Hating yourself leads to hating others.

  • Agree mostly

    Votes: 6 40.0%
  • Disagree mostly

    Votes: 9 60.0%

  • Total voters
    15

Brickjectivity

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I have not read books about it such as I'm Ok You're Ok. No, I have not read a lot.

I think that its a general principle that if we hate ourselves we cannot help but start to feel miserable about other people. This manifests as various feelings, but its all related to that self hatred. Similarly if we love ourselves then we can, from that, begin to feel good about other people.
 

Hermit Philosopher

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I have not read books about it such as I'm Ok You're Ok. No, I have not read a lot.

I think that its a general principle that if we hate ourselves we cannot help but start to feel miserable about other people. This manifests as various feelings, but its all related to that self hatred. Similarly if we love ourselves then we can, from that, begin to feel good about other people.

And the opposite happens too: from hating others, self-hatred grows.


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joe1776

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I have not read books about it such as I'm Ok You're Ok. No, I have not read a lot.

I think that its a general principle that if we hate ourselves we cannot help but start to feel miserable about other people. This manifests as various feelings, but its all related to that self hatred. Similarly if we love ourselves then we can, from that, begin to feel good about other people.
I think we have to explain human behavior as attempts to satisfy human needs in the same way that the behavior we call "drinking" satisfies our unconscious need for water.

I don't think that racism is about race, for example. I think race is a pretext allowing one to satisfy the unconscious need to feel superior to other people. My theory credibly explains a ton of human misbehavior:

Our race is superior to theirs!
Our religion is superior to theirs!
Our nation is superior to theirs!
Our tribe is superior to theirs!
 
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Mock Turtle

Oh my, did I say that!
Premium Member
I can't vote, given the options, and tend to agree with some of the comments. Many will simply hate themselves for various reasons and just be locked into such, so as not to necessarily hate others, whilst so many others will hate others for various reasons and not necessarily be impacted by such. And it all basically depends upon how introspective and/or honest one is as to analysing one's own beliefs and behaviour - apart from being in a place mentally to do such, which many simply aren't.

But I'm sure it can often happen as to hating oneself then leading on as to hating others, given that we often do tend to project on to others much of what we see within ourselves or as to what we might want or fear, for example.
 
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VoidCat

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I hated myself for years.
I still usually had put others first to a fault.
I cared more about them then myself
I wanted them to feel good so they didn't feel my pain cuz I cared a lot for them.
 

ChristineM

"Be strong", I whispered to my coffee.
Premium Member
Being on the receiving end every day of someone who can often hate themselves i had to vote "agree mostly"
I am an unofficial, long distance carer for a manic paranoid schizophrenic. He will often hate himself for his illness, that manifests in hatred of me and others.
 

Stevicus

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One word: Depression.



Depression is a mental illness it can be caused by a chemical imbalance and is thought to have a genetic link.

Yes, although the OP's point was that hating oneself leads to hating others. However, I don't believe anyone starts hating themselves out of the blue. My impression is that others started hating them first, making them feel bad about themselves, which leads to low self-esteem, anger issues, and depression, as you've correctly pointed out.

But just the phrase itself - "hating oneself" or "loving oneself" - they seem like vague abstractions which came out of the consciousness raising movement of the 60s and 70s, filled with all kinds of trite sayings and platitudes which sound good on the surface but mean absolutely nothing in terms of practical reality.
 

JustGeorge

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I am not terribly fond of myself at all, but I like and get along with most others, so I voted disagree.

One can see a person who is critical frequently would have a higher instance of just being critical all around, but I think making hard and fast rules on these things is a mistake. Humans are just too diverse for that.
 

Ella S.

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Sometimes it is quite the opposite. People with low self-esteem tend to be pushovers with other people, elevating those around them to beat themselves up further. They hate themselves, but love others probably more than most people. In fact, hating themselves sort of causes them to love others, because at least other people aren't them.

Whereas those who really love themselves tend to resent others for getting in their way or not recognizing how great they are, so, for them, loving themselves makes them hate others because other people aren't them.

To be honest, though, I don't think there's a correlation between the two, but I could be convinced by relevant psychological studies.
 
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