Do you cry? Do you feel it's socially acceptable to cry? For women? For men? Both?
If it's more socially acceptable for one gender to cry in public than another, why?
Personally I think crying is something healthy to express very strong emotions and we as a society should not shame anyone who needs a good cry every now and then.
But I think society does shame folks for crying, particularly men (though that is changing.) And I think that is very detrimental for men overall. Because it tells them that they should not be allowed to express very strong emotions and instead keep it all bottled up.
I don’t think that’s a healthy message to send.
Incidentally I just came across an article on a recent football match, somewhat related to this. In a recent AFL (Australian Rules Football) match, there was a “sledging” incident. Sledging is Aussie slang for basically insulting your opponent in sports. Usually it’s something that is seen as just players letting off steam and normally all is forgotten and forgiven after the final siren.
This particular incident crossed the line though. A team captain made a very rude remark (allegedly) against an opponent, but the remark/insult was directed at said team member’s family. (Details are scarce right now.) This upset the player to the point where he had to use a break in play to cool off and compose himself. Apparently the poor man was actually in tears over it. So it must have hit close to home indeed
This lead to a public apology from the Captain in question and is an incident which is currently being reviewed by the League itself. (Sledging might be fine. But bullying and harassment are against policy.)
I’ve never really thought about it before. But I do wonder if the story would play out the same in another code, like say Rugby League. I only wonder this because the AFL overall seems to be a bit more comfortable with progressive values, if you like, compared to Rugby.
Like I dunno, the environment seems more forgiving of a man crying in the AFL than Rugby seems to be. Barring crying over an important match which was lost, I suppose
(If that makes sense at all?)