I'm not saying people should stop having kids or anything nor do I begrudge large families. I personaly would love to have up to four kids if I can afford it(and I can convince the man who will hopefully be my husband one day to put up with that many
). However any children beyond 1 or 2 that I have would most likely be adopted half because of overpopulation and half because there are just too many kids who need a good home now.
I think adoption is a terrific idea - good for you and I hope your future includes this.
Also I'm curious Kathryn just what did you hope to accomplish or "prove" by creating the scenario that you did?
I hoped to make people think a little outside their comfort zone. Sometimes the status quo needs to be challenged. I believe our society has bought into some very self destructive ideas.
As far as the racial groups I brought up - I was discussing basically the falling birth rate of the United States and those three racial groups are the three predominant groups in the US. My comments did not hide a more sinister concept.
I understand that. What I'm trying to figure out is what you feel these three racial groups are doing for your argument. Seems to me that these statistics could argue just as much in favor of encouraging blacks and hispanics to have smaller families and use birth control as much as encouraging whites to have larger families.
And there's really no need to "encourage people to consider having more children." I can assure that most if not all couples who have or desire to have children consider how many they want and whether or not they want more. Most decide they are just fine with 1-3 kids.
Wait a minute - if you believe fervently in something, don't you share your beliefs with others? If you believe, for instance, that a certain politician is the best candidate for President, don't you share that conviction with others in the hope that they will at least consider that person for the office? You can share a conviction with others without forcing them to adopt your same beliefs.
There are just a few ways we can change the world we live in significantly. One way is by sharing our ideas with others. We can do this in words and in our own actions. I sincerely believe that our declining birth rate is going to cause significant social problems in the next generation or two, and I will do what I can to reverse that trend. I think that's the socially responsible thing to do.
I'm not saying don't share your beliefs. The thing is there's a big difference between encouraging someone to vote for so and so and encouraging someone to have a larger family. When encouraging someone to vote for so and so you can explain why they think that person is the best candidate and all that and possibly sway their opinion. When it comes to encouraging a person to have a larger family you can relate your own experience but not much else and no amount of encouragment or argumentation is going to change their financial situation, what kind of time they have on their hands, how many children they feel comfortable with, or any of the number of other reasons that lead people to the decision of how many children they want. I think the two biggest reasons why most families only have 1-3 children is because that's all they want and/or they can't afford to have more. Neither of those are going to change with simple encouragment. besides, as I have said most people who have or want children have ALREADY CONSIDERED whether or not they want more, have considered just how many they want, and have decided to stick with 1-3
Okay... why? why NFP and not contraception? Why do you think NFP is better? Do have any arguments on which to base your assertion other than personal experience?
This sounds like a topic for another thread. But I'll give you my short answers. The first answers are in my opening post. Natural family planning isn't AS effective as more intrusive, unnatural forms of birth control. If used correctly, it's about 80 percent effective. So there's that 20 percent chance of conception vs a 4 percent or so chance. So I believe that chance alone creates a sexual environment that reinforces the principle between two people that sex isn't JUST for fun - that it's a large responsibility. I think this is a more healthy mindset - because sex IS a big responsibility. I think we've gotten very far away from that principle in our society.
I also think that it's a healthier option for both the man and the woman. That is, if the woman is healthy to begin with.
It's not for everyone. But I believe it's a great option for a lot of people who haven't seriously considered it yet.
if it's for another thread then why would you bring it up in the OP? Also birth control has been around for thousands of years, even the ancient egyptians had condoms made of animal skin. So I highly doubt they are the major contributor to the current view of sex being a recreational activity. I think that view mainly comes from the media which portrays it AS a "recreational activity". but as you said probably a topic for another thread.
Okay, I'm a little confused. Is this thread to debate natural family planning vs. artificial contraception or large families vs. small families, cause we seem to be switching back and forth between the two.
NFP is a part of the scenario I believe in. However, I agree that it should probably be on a new thread. You know how these threads are - sometimes they can stray off course and evolve in different directions.
Peace out!
that doesn't answer my question really. Are you saying that this thread is to debate large families vs. small families then? If so then why bring up NFP, What does NFP have to do at all with large families vs. small families. Unless one's method of birth control is to castrate themselves or cut out their uterus the birth control method used, whether NFP or contraceptives, won't change the number of children a family can have or wants to have. So why bring it up, why label the thread "contraception" in the first place?
on that note what does the "what have you done for me lately" bit have to do with the discussion as well?