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Discussion in 'Sexuality' started by Conscious thoughts, Jul 24, 2021.

  1. Conscious thoughts

    Conscious thoughts Veteran Member

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    Yesterday was the first time outside of RF i spoke openly about being A-sexual, and honestly it scared the crap out of me when my friends started to ask question to me about why I do not seek a partner as in Girlfriend.

    The first minuttes of trying to explain was most difficult :oops: but my Muslim friends was the most welcoming toward me, and that surprised me a lot actually.

    Some did not know what A-sexual mean, but little by little they understood that (to me) A-sexuallity means, lack of sexual attraction to any human being. Of course there are many variations of being A-sexual too.

    I guess they maybe could not truly understand, but that is ok :)
    To be accepted for who i become was maybe the most important in the discussion for me.

    Being open is a heck of a lot better than trying to hide away in life. :)
     
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  2. Shakeel

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    It is not an obstacle to having a girlfriend - islam is.
     
  3. Meow Mix

    Meow Mix Chatte FĂ©ministe

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    I hope this brought you some happiness, and I'm glad some of your friends were supportive. You're beautiful the way you are <3
     
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  4. Conscious thoughts

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    It brough a calmness within me, to carry a Secret isn't my way of finding peace from within. And yes, knowing my friends did not run any was good :)
    I experienced in my past that friends run away when something was discussed.
     
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    I am happy alone. I do not seek the physical pleasures of sexual matters
     
  6. Shakeel

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    I got that from your first post. I was thinking of a life partner. Anyway, it's a sunnah to get married in Islam. Some people choose to die alone, so to speak. It's their choice.
     
  7. Valjean

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    Sexual drive varies. It's a continuum.
     
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  8. osgart

    osgart Nothing my eye, Something for sure

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    I'm mostly asexual. I find sex to be a hindrance to my overall well being. I only am attracted to women with the same values as me. But like women with no morals I couldn't care less no matter how good looking they may seem to be.
     
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    To me the important in a person is their inside, way of thinking, moral, and so on, looks is not important
     
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