Is it ok to see your girlfriend naked before marriage?If your girlfriend and boyfriend?What does the bible say?
That's a really thoughtful question Frank, and I am glad to see you are looking to God for the answer, since it seems you realize you can trust it's time tested wisdom. Well done.
Bible principles can help, but first, a story.
Two young people were courting, and apparently they started kissing - not the peck on the cheek kissing.
Eventually, they found themselves alone, in a room, just the two of them... kissing. What could go wrong?
Then they started touching... petting... heavy petting... oops. The girl got pregnant - before marriage.
What a sad lesson they learned.
Once passions are aroused, it's hard to hold them back, or control them. Very hard. Just look at this sex mad world, and you will see. So many men are married, and they can't keep their pants on, when they leave home - not excluding women.
Not saying self control is not possible, but it requires great effort, and loyalty to godly standards... which this world scoffs at.
Hence, the following principles are good to consider
1) Don't ignore your conscience, and consider the conscience of others... in the sight of God.
(Romans 2:14, 15 ;13:5; 1 Corinthians 8:7-13 ; 10:25-33)
(2 Corinthians 4:2) But we have renounced the shameful, underhanded things, not walking with cunning or adulterating the word of God; but by making the truth manifest, we recommend ourselves to every human conscience in the sight of God.
2) Don't give in to peer pressure, or accept advise that goes against what you believe, or what you think God's view is on the matter.
(Proverbs 13:20 ; 1 Corinthians 15:33)
3) Remember the song you probably sang at Sunday School. "Be careful little eyes, what you see."
(Job 31:1 ; Matthew 5:28)
So just be patient, and exercise self control during your courtship. (1 Corinthians 7:1, 2, 9)
(1 Thessalonians 4:4, 5)
4 Each one of you should know how to control his own body in holiness and honor,
5 not with greedy, uncontrolled sexual passion like the nations have that do not know God.
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