Poll: Neighbourly bliss or not?

TikToker in backlash after filming himself using strimmer to cut back neighbour's overhanging tree | Daily Mail Online

Under UK law, homeowners are entitled to trim back branches or roots that cross over into their property from their neighbours' homes or from a public road. Gardeners are allowed to cut back up to the property boundary, but face being taken to court and potential criminal damage charges if they go beyond this point.

As to which I have done quite a bit (trimming of overhanging material) and where mostly I haven't contacted the neighbour - which is I suspect what happens quite often. Such not being that annoying. But it often gets this bad:

Ex-Tottenham manager Peter Shreeves' daughter, 52, 'poured wet cement and spat' at her neighbours | Daily Mail Online

Which, in your view, tends to cause the most conflict between neighbours - and which might not be mentioned in the poll? And any experiences gratefully received.

Mock Turtle said:

TikToker in backlash after filming himself using strimmer to cut back neighbour's overhanging tree | Daily Mail Online

Under UK law, homeowners are entitled to trim back branches or roots that cross over into their property from their neighbours' homes or from a public road. Gardeners are allowed to cut back up to the property boundary, but face being taken to court and potential criminal damage charges if they go beyond this point.

As to which I have done quite a bit (trimming of overhanging material) and where mostly I haven't contacted the neighbour - which is I suspect what happens quite often. Such not being that annoying. But it often gets this bad:

Ex-Tottenham manager Peter Shreeves' daughter, 52, 'poured wet cement and spat' at her neighbours | Daily Mail Online

Which, in your view, tends to cause the most conflict between neighbours - and which might not be mentioned in the poll? And any experiences gratefully received.

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Primarily what I've seen is parking issues.
Second to that is noise.

I get on quite well with mine. In a place like London, it generally pays to be tolerant and considerate. Doesn't always work that way, of course...

I don't interact with my neighbors so dont know

I was going to click several, but I think in the end, its personalities not clicking. It seems like a minor thing, but I think its what sets the rest off.

We have a neighbor on one side that loves us. She has grandkids and is overall understanding of the very chaotic situation with one of our children(which goes above and beyond the disturbance of your average child). The neighbor on the other side hates us, and has called the cops for noise complaints when he had an autistic meltdown. The neighbor on the left didn't mind when we broke through the beiges and pastels of the neighborhood and painted the house orange and pink, the neighbor on the right got ticked off(nothing he could do). Left neighbor is appreciative that my husband sometimes parks by her house; she works third shift and it makes it look like someone's home. Right side neighbor doesn't drive, but puts notes on the cars to move them if they're in front of his house(which he can't legally do).

Overall, just examples. Uptight neighbors tend to get on with other uptight neighbors. Laid back neighbors tend to get along with other laid back neighbors. Compromise generally goes a long way.

At our old house, we had a neighbor with diagnoses OCD. She used to get really anxious about weeds growing on our fence. She would snip them when we were gone. This was fine. I liked the weeds, but if they upset her, and she wanted to take on the task, fine. However, she crept to the other side one day, and snipped the weeds(the side of the yard not near her property). I asked her to stop then, and gave her a reason: "The weeds on that side cover the fence that is in view of the very busy road. I garden, and sometimes my skirt doesn't stay put, and my butt may hang out. Please leave those weeds, as I don't want to moon anyone in the road." She looked surprised that I was so direct, laughed and said, "Sure! Your yard, your butt" and went away laughing. Now that she had a reason why things were the way they were, they didn't bother her as much, and we went back to our normal compromise.

I voted <fence or boundary> based upon personal experience.
I don't know what is generally the greatest cause.

I’ve only had a problem with a neighbor when I lived in an apartment and that was a noise pollution issue.

Boundary issues, and I'm not talking about fences or walls. But the feeling of your private space is being encroached without invitation. And that includes most of these things listed I think.

And I also think the solution isn't to always forcefully reinforce your boundaries. Sometimes you need to work on your own boundary expectations and realize that society means your lives are going to overlap a little, even at home. I'm not saying this one case was a bad reaction but I have seen people flip out because their downstairs neighbor has a crying baby. Or their upstairs neighbor whose floor is old has creaky steps. Or their next door neighbor is disabled and can't keep their yard as nice as the neighbors want it to look.

I mind my business and they mind theirs, which is how I like it.

Revoltingest said:

I voted <fence or boundary> based upon personal experience.
I don't know what is generally the greatest cause.

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Our back fence is literally attached to the neighbor's, which I hate.

The Sum of Awe said:

I’ve only had a problem with a neighbor when I lived in an apartment and that was a noise pollution issue.

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Sharing walls is the worst. I don't miss it.

I actually disliked living in a duplex more than living in an apartment. It was too personal... Like having roommates we didn't get to pick.

As of now, I don't have any issues with neighbors. The closest is around 300-350 yards away. For me, in the past, it seemed to be about noise pollution and personalities clashing for the most part. Then about parking and boundaries. Just my experiences.