The Dating Game

Enoch07 said:

I played the I totally don't care about you, you are not good enough to even be on my radar card. (I was a-hole I admit it). Which seems to drive some chicks absolutely wild. I guess they feel like they have something to prove.

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Unguru said:

It is essentially: Person A creates a character for Person B to enjoy, Person B creates a character for Person A to enjoy, they both date and fall in love with each other's fictional characters, maybe even have a child, then they realize that each other actually are not the characters that they fell in love with, then Person A and Person B grow to resent each other. If they don't divorce at some point, they have a salty marriage till one of them dies, then the remaining partner hooks up with someone else when in their 60s and dies a decade later.

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Enoch07 said:

Hmm well there was my bi-polar schizo fiance in Germany. She wasn't diagnosed at the time.

Long story short.

We had gone through a rough patch a few months prior. But worked things out and carried on super happy. But anyways..

One morning we woke up, it was the weekend. She got on the computer to play World of Warcraft, I offered to make breakfast. So off I went. Made cheese toast for both of us, and brewed up a cup of her lemon tea she loved so much.

So I came into the office. Sat her tea down in the designated place on a coaster. Sat her saucer with her food on it next to it. Didn't say a single word to her, as this was her time to decompress. I turned to leave the room, made it to the door. Then "ziiiiiing" past my ear. As a saucer exploded on the door. It came so close to my ear I could hear the porcelin vibrating because she put that much spin on it!

I turned around to see her blood red, foaming at the mouth basically. Needless to say an argument began. Lots of loud words and blah blah blah. Well in my frustration a bit of spittle escaped my lips and landed on her face (unintentionally of course). To which she accused me of spitting in her face etc. Which only escalated the situation.

So I tried to leave because she was being irrational.

She grabs me by one shoulder, turns me around then socks me. Gave me a black eye in fact. Unfortunately "the red curtain" fell at this point and I went into fight or flight mode. Grabbed her by the throat lifted her 3 feet off the ground and told her if she ever hit me again she would regret it. Then I dropped her, grabbed my things and left the house.

3 hours later she found me walking in some random corn field near Nuremberg begging me to come back. In which I did like a fool. Luckily there never was anymore physical incidents between us. Other than her slamming doors, breaking windows, and wrecking her car once on purpose to prove a point. But yeah crazy time with her!

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AT-AT said:

I'm neither a virgin nor an absolute alpha male. But I think unlike pure friendship, dating in terms of the first few dates is kind of a game, and a game that when won by 100% honest playing and being just yourself, is often won by chance.

The goals of the game are to 1. Have them feel an emotional investment in you, 2. Except in cases of celibate relationships, initiate intimacy at the right time.

What do you think? Am I right? Am I wrong and a jerk? Am I right and a jerk?

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AT-AT said:

Wow. I have no story that bad. All of mine involve wild, freaky intimacy.

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Nakosis said:

Apparently honesty is taboo during this dating ritual.

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Enoch07 said:

Well I just laugh now that it's all said and done. But if I had to do it all over again, knowing what I know now, I'd probably make different decisons.

Except for the blond she was smoking hot!

Well and I would have probably married Jaime instead of passing on her when she proposed to me the night before she married another guy. I turned her down because she was like a sister and I had no idea she was in love with me.

She had a fight with her fiance the night before her wedding and she came to me and attacked me basically, begged me to run off with her. She took me by surprise, I was literally like a deer in headlights. I just froze didn't know what to do.

Turns out I had romantic feelings for her as well, but didn't realize til after she married the other guy. I think I missed out on a real soulmate there. but that's life, it just sucks sometimes.

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Enoch07 said:

I am not be sure to be honest.

I think it's because I played the oblivious card.

I played the I totally don't care about you, you are not good enough to even be on my radar card. (I was a-hole I admit it). Which seems to drive some chicks absolutely wild. I guess they feel like they have something to prove.

Also I was fairly physically attractive at the time. 6ft, 220lbs of muscle not bad for a 18 year old back in the day, tattoos and piercings. I hustled on the side, so I had money to flash. All the typical stuff young chicks dig and think matters, nice car etc.

One of those 2 things or a combination of both.

Regardless I don't have or use either tactic anymore.

But as an old man giving a young man advice. Play the ignore card. Don't show any interest at all. If they ask you to do something just say something like "eh sure, whatevs". Easier said than done, and it makes no sense at all but it works.

It doesn't work as an old man. I ignore em and they could give less of an "eff".

The problem us single old men have is they want to use us for money. They don't mind teasing and insinuating, but they just want the money, they don't care about a relationship or going through with the flirty banter. But that's why I stopped dating anyone under 30 years old (I'm 41).

Last chick I dated under 30, was about 6 months ago. She was 22, don't get me wrong the sex was great, but she was only after money. She didn't give a p00p about me otherwise. Soon as the gifts and spoiling slowed down, trouble reared its ugly head, to no surprise.

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Hubert Farnsworth said:

The "ignore" game only worked because you were muscular and attractive with money and a nice car. If a nerd ignores women, they'll just ignore him back lol

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Hubert Farnsworth said:

The "ignore" game only worked because you were muscular and attractive with money and a nice car. If a nerd ignores women, they'll just ignore him back lol

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AT-AT said:

Maybe you should date men. There exists less communicational barrier.

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Hubert Farnsworth said:

The "ignore" game only worked because you were muscular and attractive with money and a nice car. If a nerd ignores women, they'll just ignore him back lol

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AT-AT said:

Yes and no. The nerd must also work on steps at becoming more attractive and giving the appearance of being less available, and on a pretty regular basis.

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