I see our disconnect. I am relating to the "EARLY" church 1 - 350 years and you are relating to the church that came after where the realities were changed and ended up in the Dark Ages where the ignorance of the Word abounded.
Some of your examples are obviously one sided but it is noted that when monasteries began, the purpose of God began to wain.
I disagree since this doesn't have to do with "family" per se. It has to do with purpose. In the Civil war, there were brothers against brothers but it didn't have to do with what family was all about.
1 Tim 2 A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach; FAMILY
1 Tim 3: 11 Deacons Even
so must their
wives be
grave, FAMILY
Eph 6:
1
Children, obey your parents in the
Lord: for this is right.
2
Honourthy father and mother;* (which
is the
first commandment with promise
3
That it may
be well with
thee, and thou
mayest live
long on the
earth.
FAMILY
1 Cor 7:
12 But to the rest speak I, not the Lord: If any brother hath a wife that believeth not, and she be pleased to dwell with him, let him not put her away.
MARRIAGE/FAMILY
John 19:27 Then saith he to the disciple,Behold thy mother! And from that hour that disciple took her unto his own home.
FAMILY / ADOPTED
EPH 5:
25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
FAMILY...
and countless more
if all you do is look at scripture that support your position at the expense of those you don't, your viewpoint will be in error. You have to look into context so that all scriptures work together.