jmvizanko
Uber Tool
How does one know if having children with their current significant other, who is of a different faith, will end in catastrophe?
My current situation is that of dating a fundamentalist Christian, and I am a very opinionated weak atheist. We have been dating for about 5 years, and marriage looks like its not far off. Our biggest concern is how our faith difference might affect having children.
I think I have much less of a problem with her teaching the faith to my children, than she does with me negating it with my opinions. I mean, the first day she tries telling my kid he's going to hell if he's not a Christian, I'm gonna be there wanting to tell himm that most of the world doesn't believe that, and why I think its insane (in nicer terms). But until you are really at that bridge, all the hypotheticals that you can discuss about it don't equate to what will actually happen. I think a lot of people get even more religious when they have children, and I guess I just am very concerned that this will be much more of a problem than either one of us are able to, or maybe unwilling to, see.
Of course, I don't think that these ideas are more important than many other things. We will both be teaching our children fundamentally the same morals, and general education (minus a few disagreements about a few scientific theories). I was raised Catholic, and its not like it damaged me or really ended up mattering in the end. So I don't know if I am downplaying it, but I just don't think it has to be as big of a deal as I am worrying that it might be.
Does anybody have any advice and/or horror or success stories? Is there any telltale things I could try to uncover in conversation that might indicate what I should do?
My current situation is that of dating a fundamentalist Christian, and I am a very opinionated weak atheist. We have been dating for about 5 years, and marriage looks like its not far off. Our biggest concern is how our faith difference might affect having children.
I think I have much less of a problem with her teaching the faith to my children, than she does with me negating it with my opinions. I mean, the first day she tries telling my kid he's going to hell if he's not a Christian, I'm gonna be there wanting to tell himm that most of the world doesn't believe that, and why I think its insane (in nicer terms). But until you are really at that bridge, all the hypotheticals that you can discuss about it don't equate to what will actually happen. I think a lot of people get even more religious when they have children, and I guess I just am very concerned that this will be much more of a problem than either one of us are able to, or maybe unwilling to, see.
Of course, I don't think that these ideas are more important than many other things. We will both be teaching our children fundamentally the same morals, and general education (minus a few disagreements about a few scientific theories). I was raised Catholic, and its not like it damaged me or really ended up mattering in the end. So I don't know if I am downplaying it, but I just don't think it has to be as big of a deal as I am worrying that it might be.
Does anybody have any advice and/or horror or success stories? Is there any telltale things I could try to uncover in conversation that might indicate what I should do?