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Your original argument was that the man needs to know the children are his.
Well I am, but I'm only human.Are humans naturally monogamous? Why or why not?
I don't know whether it's natural, but I am and I expect my wife to be. Very few aspects of my life are natural anyway. I'm not a nomadic hunter-gatherer.
Quite true, but irrelevant.
Which part is irrelevant? And if so, so what? I'm not arguing with anyone.Quite true, but irrelevant.
No. It's often thought that women are naturally monogamous while men are not, but that seems to be a misconception held over from Victorian ideas about women's sexuality. A substantial percentage of women prefer to have sex with men who are not at all the kind of men they prefer to marry. They prefer a nice, steady, responsible guy as a provider, but like the "bad boys" as sexual partners. (Which is actually not a bad breeding strategy for either the "bad boys" or their female partners.) It's hard to arrive at definite numbers, but some researchers estimate that between 5% and 15% of births are "non-paternity events," i.e., the putative father is not the biological father.Are humans naturally monogamous? Why or why not?
No. It's often thought that women are naturally monogamous while men are not, but that seems to be a misconception held over from Victorian ideas about women's sexuality. A substantial percentage of women prefer to have sex with men who are not at all the kind of men they prefer to marry. They prefer a nice, steady, responsible guy as a provider, but like the "bad boys" as sexual partners. (Which is actually not a bad breeding strategy for either the "bad boys" or their female partners.) It's hard to arrive at definite numbers, but some researchers estimate that between 5% and 15% of births are "non-paternity events," i.e., the putative father is not the biological father.
I don't think we are as a default. There have been very few strictly monogamist cultures in human history. Those that are, are as monogamist as any other species that pair bonds. (Cheating is fairly common.)
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No. It's often thought that women are naturally monogamous while men are not, but that seems to be a misconception held over from Victorian ideas about women's sexuality. A substantial percentage of women prefer to have sex with men who are not at all the kind of men they prefer to marry. They prefer a nice, steady, responsible guy as a provider, but like the "bad boys" as sexual partners. (Which is actually not a bad breeding strategy for either the "bad boys" or their female partners.) It's hard to arrive at definite numbers, but some researchers estimate that between 5% and 15% of births are "non-paternity events," i.e., the putative father is not the biological father.
Which part is irrelevant? And if so, so what? I'm not arguing with anyone.
well, I'm well aware of how physical attraction works. I never argued that and don't understand why some in the thread thought I was. I'm talking about cheating on your provider being a "strategy".
Perhaps not, but cheating however is a conscious choice, no?
Not at all; she loves you for your mind.So when a girl asks "So when are we going to get married?" It should be taken as an insult?
Sure, take it out on the kid.And if I were in a situation were I was betrayed, deceived and manipulated into raising some another man's little snotling, I would adopt the lion's instinct toward such a situation and make a meal of it.
Roughly half of married people in the U.S. admit to having committed adultery, so there's no telling how many actually do it. I do know that since DNA testing has become more popular and more available, genealogists are no longer surprised to find "non-paternity events" in the lines they're researching. I have reason to doubt the paternity of my 2nd-great-grandmother, but I can't figure out how to test for that at this point.The 5% to 15% figure is generally accepted by biologists, so far as I know. However, it seems the actual percentage depends to a large extent on location and local custom. One village in Wales, for instance, had a cuckold rate of around 30% as established by genetic testing.
It all adds up to the straight man's lament: Women always say they want a sensitive guy, but they don't respect a sensitive guy.