Words speak louder than actions

[Unveiled Artist]

Actually, actions speak louder than words can be just on the same level of wisdom as words speak louder than actions. Though, more emphasis is put on the former than the latter. Growing up as a child this was always the case. I was taken care of medical wise, and so forth. Of course actions are a sign of love. But when you're a child and you're only "seeing actions" you don't know how to interpret that as love just the act of being taken care of. When babies are infants, the child reacts to their mother's tone of voice. They say talk to the child when they are growing in the mother's womb. Something about what's said and how sooths the child. It's the same vis versa. When there is negativity in the words, actions become distorted. "My mother is doing this for me but she never says she loves me" type of thing.

Interestingly enough I found this online.
Words Are More Powerful Than Physical Actions | BIZCATALYST 360°.

"As his eyes met mine, his mouth spilt into laughter and we both knew in that moment he’d made his point. Words are more powerful than actions. My words had deeply hurt him. His action even if he could have reached me and made good on his promise to give me my first spanking at age 14 would never held as much meaning for me as the power my negative words had on both of us."

It's the only website I found that looks at words are better than actions.

As an adult, it is just the same. Of course both are important (and I don't feel just because you choose one side, you don't have feelings for the other), but it depends on how one is raised and their morals and so forth. It's not right or wrong in itself; though, it's very, how to say, disturbing to think of clichés as truth. (Silence is better than words; actions are louder than words; and so forth). I know many people want to be neutral, but I think our society from all over the world makes us divided. It's not a Western thing. Maybe a human thing.

I don't know

 

[Nakosis]

"Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me."

Words I've lived by. Unfortunately, we are not always consciously aware of how the words we hear affect us.

It's known that by repeating a statement often enough without something that disputes it gets accepted as fact. Also what initially gets heard tends to be accepted as fact even if disputed later.

I think is the way our brains have evolved. Probably very useful for survival however subject to abuse by those aware of it.

 

[joe1776]

"Actions speak louder than words"

I take this to mean that one's behavior is a better indication of their true character than what they say they believe. I think that's true.

 

[JustGeorge]

I think I can relate a bit to the idea...

My oldest son's father was abusive. He hit me a few times, but, I really didn't care. I was never really affected by that, it annoyed me at best(even if he bruised me). He just seemed like an overgrown, idiodic bully and I wasn't impressed for positive or negative.

However, the things he said stayed for years. I'd much rather he'd have hit me than say the things he did. Even once we had made our peace, the damage from his words lived on.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

I think I can relate a bit to the idea...

My oldest son's father was abusive. He hit me a few times, but, I really didn't care. I was never really affected by that, it annoyed me at best(even if he bruised me). He just seemed like an overgrown, idiodic bully and I wasn't impressed for positive or negative.

However, the things he said stayed for years. I'd much rather he'd have hit me than say the things he did. Even once we had made our peace, the damage from his words lived on.

Physical pain is so easy compared to an emotional dagger to the heart. It's easier to bear, it usually heals quicker, easier to get over and often forgotten. But emotional scars happen easier, and often run deeper.

 

[Vinayaka]

I think I can relate a bit to the idea...

My oldest son's father was abusive. He hit me a few times, but, I really didn't care. I was never really affected by that, it annoyed me at best(even if he bruised me). He just seemed like an overgrown, idiodic bully and I wasn't impressed for positive or negative.

However, the things he said stayed for years. I'd much rather he'd have hit me than say the things he did. Even once we had made our peace, the damage from his words lived on.

Isn't your oldest son's father you?

 

[exchemist]

Actually, actions speak louder than words can be just on the same level of wisdom as words speak louder than actions. Though, more emphasis is put on the former than the latter. Growing up as a child this was always the case. I was taken care of medical wise, and so forth. Of course actions are a sign of love. But when you're a child and you're only "seeing actions" you don't know how to interpret that as love just the act of being taken care of. When babies are infants, the child reacts to their mother's tone of voice. They say talk to the child when they are growing in the mother's womb. Something about what's said and how sooths the child. It's the same vis versa. When there is negativity in the words, actions become distorted. "My mother is doing this for me but she never says she loves me" type of thing.

Interestingly enough I found this online.
Words Are More Powerful Than Physical Actions | BIZCATALYST 360°.

"As his eyes met mine, his mouth spilt into laughter and we both knew in that moment he’d made his point. Words are more powerful than actions. My words had deeply hurt him. His action even if he could have reached me and made good on his promise to give me my first spanking at age 14 would never held as much meaning for me as the power my negative words had on both of us."

It's the only website I found that looks at words are better than actions.

As an adult, it is just the same. Of course both are important (and I don't feel just because you choose one side, you don't have feelings for the other), but it depends on how one is raised and their morals and so forth. It's not right or wrong in itself; though, it's very, how to say, disturbing to think of clichés as truth. (Silence is better than words; actions are louder than words; and so forth). I know many people want to be neutral, but I think our society from all over the world makes us divided. It's not a Western thing. Maybe a human thing.

I don't know

"The pen is mightier than the sword" is a famous dictum on this side of the Atlantic, at least.

 

[JustGeorge]

Isn't your oldest son's father you?

No, I am his mother.

(Despite my username, I am a woman.)

 

[Unveiled Artist]

I think I can relate a bit to the idea...

My oldest son's father was abusive. He hit me a few times, but, I really didn't care. I was never really affected by that, it annoyed me at best(even if he bruised me). He just seemed like an overgrown, idiodic bully and I wasn't impressed for positive or negative.

However, the things he said stayed for years. I'd much rather he'd have hit me than say the things he did. Even once we had made our peace, the damage from his words lived on.

Sorry to hear that. It's true. I didn't know I had so many "voices" in my head as an adult but I never remembered being abused or anything like that. Threatened but I couldn't tell if it was parental discipline or not at the time. I think it was a combination since guns and things like that where involved. But I don't know what affects me today until I go through it and what I do.

Hopefully, it doesn't affect you like it used to?

 

[stvdv]

I don't know

Words speak louder than actions

IMO:
This is an instruction to not be a hypocrite.

 

[exchemist]

No, I am his mother.

(Despite my username, I am a woman.)

Like Mary Ann Evans.

 

[Vinayaka]

No, I am his mother.

(Despite my username, I am a woman.)

Yeah, that's what fooled me. I gave it more thought after I posted. I'll try to remember.

Sorry you endured abuse.

 

[Unveiled Artist]

Words speak louder than actions

IMO:
This is an instruction to not be a hypocrite.

Huh?

 

[JustGeorge]

Sorry to hear that. It's true. I didn't know I had so many "voices" in my head as an adult but I never remembered being abused or anything like that. Threatened but I couldn't tell if it was parental discipline or not at the time. I think it was a combination since guns and things like that where involved. But I don't know what affects me today until I go through it and what I do.

Hopefully, it doesn't affect you like it used to?

No, it doesn't bother me at all these days. It took a good number of years, and hearing enough positive to replace the negative to quiet it, though.

Except for two things. Once, when I was getting dressed up to go out for my birthday, he said "I don't know why you bother with that. It's like putting sprinkles on a turd." I laughed, and laughed... it wasn't funny that he said it, that was very rude, but the insult itself was hilarious, and I couldn't help it. I still use it when my husband wants me to get dressed up and I don't want to.

And the comment "you're the only woman I know that can wear heels and still walk like a man". I took it as a high compliment, much to his horror.

I'm sorry you were around an event with guns. That is very scary for a child...

Like Mary Ann Evans.

I haven't met Mary Ann!

Yeah, that's what fooled me. I gave it more thought after I posted. I'll try to remember.

Its okay, its not important!

 

[MNoBody]

if words speak so loud then why do people have to repeat them and speak so loudly?
I have seen simple actions silence people who were full of many loud noisy words.
words without deeds are dead, just hot air, since anyone can say anything....now go and do it...deliver..... or quit insisting.

 

[exchemist]

No, it doesn't bother me at all these days. It took a good number of years, and hearing enough positive to replace the negative to quiet it, though.

Except for two things. Once, when I was getting dressed up to go out for my birthday, he said "I don't know why you bother with that. It's like putting sprinkles on a turd." I laughed, and laughed... it wasn't funny that he said it, that was very rude, but the insult itself was hilarious, and I couldn't help it. I still use it when my husband wants me to get dressed up and I don't want to.

And the comment "you're the only woman I know that can wear heels and still walk like a man". I took it as a high compliment, much to his horror.

I'm sorry you were around an event with guns. That is very scary for a child...



I haven't met Mary Ann!



Its okay, its not important!

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[JustGeorge]

I hadn't realized she was anyone else but George!

There's George Sand, too!

 

[stvdv]

Words speak louder than actions

IMO:
This is an instruction to not be a hypocrite.

Huh?

Well, I thought (IMO) that one was quite simple

IF "words speak louder than actions"
THEN you only hear words and see no actions
This reflects that you are hypocritical about what you say so loud

That is not the way to go

Hence it instructs to not be a hypocrite

 

[Unveiled Artist]

Well, I thought (IMO) that one was quite simple

IF "words speak louder than actions"
THEN you only hear words and see no actions
This reflects that you are hypocritical about what you say so loud

That is not the way to go

Hence it instructs to not be a hypocrite

But it says our words are "louder" than actions not in "in place" of actions. If a mother is bedridden her whole life, what other way can she express her love but through her words. I know many people have came across people who said one thing and did another. That doesn't mean the words are by themselves mean nothing in and of itself in respect to actions, it just means we judge the value of things in contrast to others based on our experiences.

I know US culture has always been communication-focused. We express things in words, our art, our speeches, et cetera. Something about using voice or sign et cetera speaks about a person's soul that being quiet just doesn't capture. Can you imagine Martin Luther King telling people to meditate their way out of the acts of discriminations?

 

[MNoBody]

when you need a hug .....no poem or talk about a hug will do.