Y'all are just people too, and if you raise the bar too high (meth smoking obviously isnt) no one will pass.(Id be more curious about those who set you up with her)
I agree with most of what you said, especially about the high expectations, you speak truth there. But I don't consider a honesty too high of a bar. I really don't have that high of requirements for someone to date. Especially if honesty one of their top priorities. I am not perfect by any stretch of the imagination, have many flaws myself. I can accept and deal with most flaws, so long as I know them upfront.
As far as the one that set me up with her, she is innocent in all this. She believed her friends lies just as much as I did.
Mostly what got this girl caught was she tagged herself hanging out with a certain guy on FB. Well little did she know I grew up with this guy, and I know all of his methods, as he has bragged about them to me himself.
He is one of these types that like to get a gal drunk/high/ruffied/whatevs then take advantage of them. Because of various physical reasons and lack of skill in the ways of women. Yah I said it, he got a micro peen, rotted teeth, and he is a 1 minute man all rolled into one. So without knocking them unconscious or getting them strung out on dope he is fairly repulsive.
Just to give you an example about how I feel about honesty and what I am able to accept with honesty.
I would date a trans girl if I had prior knowledge before "bedroom time". I might be taken a bit back if I get hit with that surprise unexpectedly. But with knowledge before hand, doesn't bother me one bit.
There is so much more to people than just their physical form, attractiveness, or sex. That's granted we got along on a friendship level etc of course. Just like with any other relatonship. I guess that makes me a sapiosexual.
Though I am attracted to more feminine qualities. Masculinity doesn't do anything for me, I got enough of that already, don't need anymore.