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Our tactics may differ, but our goal is the same. I think that being polite and conciliatory and meek only helps them pretend "it's just my opinion." I refuse to enable that delusion. Plus, as a general rule, I'll extend courtesy by default, but it can be forfeited. And respect must be earned. I won't fake it.Here's the thing Rev. To many of us this is not an abstract moral issue, it really is a war. I try to stay civil, because I want results. It requires a great deal of effort on my part.
When we were 15, my best childhood friend killed himself. He gave no warning and left no note. He just got his dad's .38 and put a bullet through his temple, leaving his family and friends in a welter of grief.
We were pretty sheltered Catholic kids in the 70's. I don't know for a fact why he did it. But I am a lot less naive than I was then. I am quite sure that Christian homophobic bigotry was the cause of my friend Kenny "freely choosing to escape the demon of homosexuality", in the only way he knew how. I cannot read some of the stuff I do here without hearing "Sorry about that kid you knew. But I am still sure that the bronze age guys who wrote the Bible were right.", even if they don't know they are writing it.
The only reason I am not honest about what I think, and try to stay civil, is because I hope that there are fewer kids who suffer Kenny's fate as time goes on. It would feel really good to be more honest. But if the @1robin s of the world kill even more kid it will not have been worth it.
Tom
I don't count that as much of an improvement, seeing as the only reason such people don't say the last bit is because they don't want to face the consequences they know they deserve. They just give you that particular smile that lets you know damned well it's what they mean.Also, in fairness, the Christian response has improved a good deal over the years. Hardly ever do Christians now say, "Sorry about that kid you knew. But the bronze age guys I believe in are still right. Too bad Kenny is burning in Hell."
Tom
Our tactics may differ, but our goal is the same. I think that being polite and conciliatory and meek only helps them pretend "it's just my opinion." I refuse to enable that delusion. Plus, as a general rule, I'll extend courtesy by default, but it can be forfeited. And respect must be earned. I won't fake it.
You seem a bright and tactful fellow. However, if you are simply choosing top down morality at the dictates of antiquities, without a care to consequence in the real world, we have little more to discuss. We might as well not continue on to discuss homosexuality. Final question: Do you think abstaining sexually can channel energy into the spiritual plane?The benefit is spiritual rather than physiological. It's an exercise in self-restraint. Many philosophies preach it. I couldn't honestly tell you what the psychological effects are. I'm only one human being. I haven't done a case study of abstinence versus indulgence.
As a Christian, I believe that the truth is axiomatically good, and that therefore the study of said truth is a worthwhile pursuit. I wouldn't go as far as to say that all attempts at 'isolating objective truth [are] inherently good.' I have reservations about certain research in the fields of medicine and genetics for example.
The right thing rarely correlates with the practical thing. I hope that I'll always do what I believe to be right, and not what I know to be expedient.
Mind-independent facts are true regardless of whether we comprehend them. That's not to say they're incomprehensible though. I don't think they are, not entirely at any rate.
I agree that what's 'right' and 'wrong' has changed. Christ fulfilled the Law after all. I don't agree that morality is transmitted from the bottom-up though. Morality is decreed from above. For me, rightness doesn't correspond to the democratic will but the will of our creator. I'm not a consequentialist. Moral axioms can't be discovered empirically.
I don't agree that the claim is faulty. Onanism, a conscious spilling of one's seed, is sinful. The function of the sexual organs is observed empirically. Sperm exists for conception, not for spilling on the floor. Sex is pleasurable, another purpose is its enjoyment with your spouse.
@StormI agree. When there are biphobic, homophobic, and misogynistic slurs and aggressions being displayed, and especially toward me, they have taken civility out of the discussion.
I cannot abide people who won't stand by their convictions.
I wasn't referring to you specifically, Tom.@Storm
The question is do you want the pleasure of catharsis or preventing more damage done? They aren't mutually exclusive, but there is a tradeoff.
I try to remain politely civil(with more success sometimes than others), but I don't consider myself "conciliatory and meek". You can be blunt and sarcastic while remaining politely civil.
Tom
It's good you can laugh about it.No, actually you never have. I have no idea what got you started on your little hobby of passive aggressive sniping at my posts, but you've been doing this for years. I've tried many times to engage you rationally, but as soon as I make a point you can't twist to make me look stupid, suddenly talking to me is beneath me. Of course, you're always eager to talk about me.
It's all rather pathetic. If I am so far beneath your notice, put me on ignore. If you want to confront me, grow a spine and confront me. But this Mean Girls drama queen thing of yours says a lot more about you than me.
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Which is more important, the pleasure you get from currying favor with the people driving our youth to suicide, or making them stop?
It's not like there's anything else I can do, is there?It's good you can laugh about it.
I appreciate your civility & your compelling posts. I am no less involved in this "war" for philosophical & personal reasons too, but the real question is what conduct best effects our goals. I find that humanity trumps hate, & that equanimity beats anger.Here's the thing Rev. To many of us this is not an abstract moral issue, it really is a war. I try to stay civil, because I want results. It requires a great deal of effort on my part.
I too had a friend who committed suicide from bullying & failing to fit in. Perhaps this & other memories of the effects of bullying are part of why I detest rampant incivility. It effects no positive changes in people, & it causes real harm.When we were 15, my best childhood friend killed himself. He gave no warning and left no note. He just got his dad's .38 and put a bullet through his temple, leaving his family and friends in a welter of grief.
We were pretty sheltered Catholic kids in the 70's. I don't know for a fact why he did it. But I am a lot less naive than I was then. I am quite sure that Christian homophobic bigotry was the cause of my friend Kenny "freely choosing to escape the demon of homosexuality", in the only way he knew how. I cannot read some of the stuff I do here without hearing "Sorry about that kid you knew. But I am still sure that the bronze age guys who wrote the Bible were right.", even if they don't know they are writing it.
The only reason I am not honest about what I think, and try to stay civil, is because I hope that there are fewer kids who suffer Kenny's fate as time goes on. It would feel really good to be more honest. But if the @1robin s of the world kill even more kid it will not have been worth it.
Tom
That is less than factual. We discussed it two years ago. (And you've been gone since then until recently.) To reiterate, I won't converse with one who continually insults & misquotes me.You turn around and quote that saw when you've refused for years to even tell me what your problem is?
@Storm
The question is do you want the pleasure of catharsis or preventing more damage done? They aren't mutually exclusive, but there is a tradeoff.
I try to remain politely civil(with more success sometimes than others), but I don't consider myself "conciliatory and meek". You can be blunt and sarcastic while remaining politely civil.
Tom
You seem a bright and tactful fellow.
However, if you are simply choosing top down morality at the dictates of antiquities, without a care to consequence in the real world, we have little more to discuss. We might as well not continue on to discuss homosexuality.
Final question: Do you think abstaining sexually can channel energy into the spiritual plane?
As I recall, after quite some time observing the pattern, I asked and you refused to answer. That's not a discussion, so yours is the "less than factual" statement.That is less than factual. We discussed it two years ago. (And you've been gone since then until recently.) To reiterate, I won't converse with one who continually insults & misquotes me.
Makes about as much sense as you asking whether the pleasure I get from catharsis is more important. I told you exactly why I take the approach I do, and you chose to ignore it and imply I'm just enjoying myself to the detriment of the cause. So much for your vaunted civility.Um, what?
Tom
What about our increased knowledge of psychology and sociology? Would that assist us in choosing the basis of morality rather than simply populism? Mainly because the root of our morality is not a bottom up democratic system though it has functioned as such with the evolution of ethics. However the basis behind those ethics often are not purely dictated by popularity.Equally, I say that you favour a democratic, bottom-up understanding of morality at the dictate of modernity. I would add, however, that the weight of history is in my favour. The theory of the common will as the seat of authority is a very new one. Most societies have historically been vary wary of equating righteousness with populism. I wouldn't say I'm 'without a care to consequences in the real world, but I do think they're of secondary concern. I think you're right. We've gone about as far as we can with this discussion. We'll agree to disagree.
It will do.As I recall, I asked and you refused to answer. That's not a discussion.
No, it really won't... well, except to display how dishonest you are about the whole thing. After all, you're perfectly aware that my statement was completely factual. What a shocker.It will do.
I guess I must clarify, I am not talking about a popularity contest or putting things to a vote to determine what is moral. I am talking about a morality modeled after law and science where empiricism and precedent reign over mere opinion. General outcomes of various contentions can be measured and tested. Claims can be directly compared on what types of sequelae emerge.Equally, I say that you favour a democratic, bottom-up understanding of morality at the dictate of modernity.
I am much more an elitist than a populist. I believe well-trained experts can process information to be get at truth. I think it a lofty goal to get beyond common sense. Given the exponential changes in human understanding, in my view, the weight of the past is vastly bogged down by ignorance. We can certainly glean apt hypotheses from antiquity but we certainly cannot draw conclusions about morality from them.I would add, however, that the weight of history is in my favour. The theory of the common will as the seat of authority is a very new one. Most societies have historically been vary wary of equating righteousness with populism.
Fair enough then.I wouldn't say I'm 'without a care to consequences in the real world, but I do think they're of secondary concern. I think you're right. We've gone about as far as we can with this discussion. We'll agree to disagree.
I just wonder whether religious passion can come from stores of excess sexual passion or whether sexual frustration can be channeled into religious conviction at least for a time before the rupture. ( haha I believe rupture is inevitable but not rapture.) Cheers !!I'd like to answer this question Uberpod, but I'm afraid I'm not familiar with the language. Is the phrase 'spiritual plane' of Buddhist origin? If it's at all relevant, I confess that abstinence leaves me feeling frustrated and irritable sometimes. But, then again, it helps me to feel closer to God. I'm a young man and not a wise old monk. I'm probably not experienced enough to answer your question.