What If We Admitted to Children That Sex Is Primarily About Pleasure?

[Nymphs]

What If We Admitted to Children That Sex Is Primarily About Pleasure?

Well, what if we did? Where would be the harm?

 

[Sunstone]

We could do that, but then we would need to kill them after admitting it in order to save them from Decadent Hedonism®.

 

[Thana]

Wow, I would never raise a kid like that woman. A bit overboard me thinks.

What if we told kids that sex was for pleasure?
Hmm, I don't know. But in a way, It's promoting sex. And I won't do that to young kids.

 

[Nymphs]

Wow, I would never raise a kid like that woman. A bit overboard me thinks.

Serious?

What if we told kids that sex was for pleasure?
Hmm, I don't know. But in a way, It's promoting sex. And I won't do that to young kids.

Don't you think it would be a healthier ideal? I was never told sex was for pleasure and it screwed me up plenty when it was pleasurable.

 

[LuisDantas]

They would assume their parents to be attracted to each other.

Can't have that. Or something.

 

[Quintessence]

Then we'd be lying to them. What sex is "about" for people depends on the person. It's... you know... a very personal thing?

 

[Thana]

Serious?

Yeah, She doesn't have a kid anymore she has a little adult.
Gotta let kids be kids, I think it's extremely unhealthy to treat them like adults.
Growing up too fast makes you bitter.

Don't you think it would be a healthier ideal? I was never told sex was for pleasure and it screwed me up plenty when it was pleasurable.

Well.. not really. If you talk about how great it is, How can you expect them to wait?

How can it screw you up to learn sex is pleasurable? I mean, wouldn't it be more like eating a cookie you expected to be mediocre and then finding out it was awesome? Just simply a nice suprise?

 

[kashmir]

Ummm, is it just me or should we even be discussing sex with children?

I know I am in a class of all my own, but when I make love to a woman, my mind is
on making her happy.

IDK, "pleasure" doesn't seem to be the right word for sex.
Pleasure works for masturbation, not sex.
Probably why I call it making love.
I don't really believe pleasure is the main reason we have sex either.

To me it's like saying we eat food mainly for its taste.

 

[Nymphs]

Yeah, She doesn't have a kid anymore she has a little adult.

How so?

Gotta let kids be kids, I think it's extremely unhealthy for them to treat them like adults.

Talking about sex is unhealthy?

Growing up too fast makes you bitter.

Depends what kind of growing up it is.

Well.. not really. If you talk about how great it is, How can you expect them to wait?

Plenty of people wait.

How can it screw you up to learn sex is pleasurable? I mean, wouldn't it be more like eating a cookie you expected to be mediocre and then finding out it was awesome? Just simply a nice suprise?

You've obviously never been in a conservative and controlling religion. I was told that sex was for procreation, women don't have orgasms and that anything other than the prescribed kind (missionary, no oral, no anal, etc.) was a sin in the eyes of god. So, when I started having orgasms and enjoying it I felt like I was sinning and was going to go to hell. The shame, the guilt, the brainwashing took years to get over. But even now I still have issues with sex. I wish someone would have told me it was okay to masterbate and feel pleasure, maybe my psyche wouldn't have been screwed up.

 

[Nymphs]

Ummm, is it just me or should we even be discussing sex with children?

They need to know at one point. How else are they going to understand what happens?

I know I am in a class of all my own, but when I make love to a woman, my

IDK, "pleasure" doesn't seem to be the right word for sex.
Pleasure works for masturbation, not sex.

Pleasure, ecstasy, love, *******, all of it describes sex. What kind of sex are you having?

Probably why I call it making love.
I don't really believe pleasure is the main reason we have sex either.

To me it's like saying we eat food mainly for its taste.

I do. It nourishes my body, but I eat food for its taste.

 

[Madhuri]

I think that kids these days already know that. How can they escape it? Sex is advertised everywhere.

From a very young age I knew that sex was supposed to be pleasurable and exciting. I also knew that it has a function in reproduction. I wasn't naive. And when I say young I mean maybe from the age of 6/7.

I don't think that promoting sex to our small children is a good idea. But allowing them to know that sex is healthy and pleasurable (maybe add in a loving relationship between adults) shouldn't be a bad thing. It's just the truth.

 

[Sunstone]

I think it would depend to some extent on how dogmatic you were with the kid about it. It's one thing to say, "Sex is about a lot of things, including pleasure." It's another thing to make it a rigid rule that it's about pleasure, and maybe nothing else. You can kill the fun of anything by being too dogmatic about it.

 

[Madhuri]

I would like to add that talking about sex in a responsible way to your own children is not unhealthy. Kids are naturally inquisitive and will want to know. They find out most of these things from other kids. I'd like to be the one to answer those questions to my children.

 

[Thana]

How so?

Because she tells him everything.

Talking about sex is unhealthy?

Talking about everything is unhealthy.

Plenty of people wait.

True.
But is it because someone explained sex to them fully or because they left them in the dark? Or is it another factor entirely?

You've obviously never been in a conservative and controlling religion. I was told that sex was for procreation, women don't have orgasms and that anything other than the prescribed kind (missionary, no oral, no anal, etc.) was a sin in the eyes of god. So, when I started having orgasms and enjoying it I felt like I was sinning and was going to go to hell. The shame, the guilt, the brainwashing took years to get over. But even now I still have issues with sex. I wish someone would have told me it was okay to masterbate and feel pleasure, maybe my psyche wouldn't have been screwed up.

No, I haven't.

That sounds so awful, I'm really sorry that happened to you and now I see how it would stuff you up. Fair enough.

But that's not really just telling your kids sex is not pleasureable, That's telling your kids a lot of religious bull to scare them straight, so to speak.

 

[Madhuri]

I think it would depend to some extent on how dogmatic you were with the kid about it. It's one thing to say, "Sex is about a lot of things, including pleasure." It's another thing to make it a rigid rule that it's about pleasure, and maybe nothing else. You can kill the fun of anything by being too dogmatic about it.

Yes, absolutely.

 

[LuisDantas]

I think that kids these days already know that. How can they escape it? Sex is advertised everywhere.

Not quite. I know plenty of people who just won't talk openly about those things. That is quite unfortunate, too.

From a very young age I knew that sex was supposed to be pleasurable and exciting. I also knew that it has a function in reproduction. I wasn't naive. And when I say young I mean maybe from the age of 6/7.

I don't think that promoting sex to our small children is a good idea. But allowing them to know that sex is healthy and pleasurable (maybe add in a loving relationship between adults) shouldn't be a bad thing. It's just the truth.

Alas, that is not always the case. It truly should be, but it is not.

 

[Madhuri]

Perhaps what we can all agree on is that a balanced approach is the best.

 

[Nymphs]

I think that kids these days already know that. How can they escape it? Sex is advertised everywhere.

Perhaps. I didn't.

And sex versus loving sex is a little different.

From a very young age I knew that sex was supposed to be pleasurable and exciting. I also knew that it has a function in reproduction. I wasn't naive. And when I say young I mean maybe from the age of 6/7.

You are very lucky then. Very, very lucky. I know so many people that didn't have that experience as well.

I don't think that promoting sex to our small children is a good idea. But allowing them to know that sex is healthy and pleasurable (maybe add in a loving relationship between adults) shouldn't be a bad thing. It's just the truth.

Small children? What do you consider, "small?"

 

[Nymphs]

Because she tells him everything.

And that makes a kid "grow up"?

Talking about everything is unhealthy.

How so?

But is it because someone explained sex to them fully or because they left them in the dark? Or is it another factor entirely?

Depends on the person.

No, I haven't.

That sounds so awful, I'm really sorry that happened to you and now I see how it would stuff you up. Fair enough.

But that's not really just telling your kids sex is not pleasureable, That's telling your kids a lot of religious bull to scare them straight, so to speak.

Thank you, but it was taught in my religion (not doctrine, but culturally) that sex isn't supposed to be pleasure, but for procreation. Most women I know were taught that, some men too.

 

[LuisDantas]

Part of the challenge is that (in my experience) quite often the parents themselves lack a fully mature and resolved approach to their own sexuality.

They can hardly teach that what they never learned themselves.