I don't really know what else to say to you, Sum. The questions you ask suggest you're assuming a classical monotheism that I don't adhere to, so I really am having trouble figuring out how to respond to you. The questions you ask are somewhat nonsensical questions if you understand the divine in the way that I do. If you have a pantheistic/polytheistic/animistic conception of the divine, a comparison involving people makes a great deal of sense. If you can't see that, I'm not sure how else to explain it. Note that I'm by no means suggesting you have to agree with me, but I'm not sure we're going to reach an understanding here because my deity concept seems very foreign to you.
As I mentioned in my first post, a lot of the initial quandaries don't apply very much once you get outside of classical monotheism. I have relationships with individual deities/spirits, some of which "care" about me and some of which don't. Just like people, their relationships with me vary depending on who/what deity/spirit I am dealing with. I'm not sure how else to put it.