nonreligiouschristian
Member
Between the ages of 12 and16 I was sexualy molested by a member of my
foster family.
when I finaly got the courage to tell, thinking that I would be protected
and the molester would be punished, I got a very distastful experience.
First my foster parents(good christian folk) became angry with me due
to the fact that I told someone else instead of them.
They even accused me of likeing it and wanting it.
then things got worse, not only did the CYS not persue the molester
because he claimed to be geting help on his own, but the church we
attended decided that the Bible says that I was now unclean and was
no longer worthy to take communion, be in the quire, be an usher, or
colect the offering. I was no longer worthy to do anything but sit there
every week and feel shame and disgrace because I was now concidered
unclean.
I was striped not only of every service I had performed in the church, I
was striped of all dignity and left the faith I loved so much because of
these actions.
My question. where did GOD ever say that victims of sexual crimes should
be punnished and were no longer worthy of his love and communion with
him.
Why do christians feel that the GOD that I love would want them to cause
a victim more pain and suffering than what they have already endured.
If their god is that kind of god, he is not the same GOD i serve and have
learned to love again after so many years.
I have forgiven the one that molested me, I have learned that my GOD
does not and did not condone those christians actions, but I find it hard
to this day to forgive those christians.
I would like some thoughts on this so that maybe I can finaly forgive them
and go on with my life as I know if I dont forgive I can not be forgiven.
Thank you all for any comments .:help:
foster family.
when I finaly got the courage to tell, thinking that I would be protected
and the molester would be punished, I got a very distastful experience.
First my foster parents(good christian folk) became angry with me due
to the fact that I told someone else instead of them.
They even accused me of likeing it and wanting it.
then things got worse, not only did the CYS not persue the molester
because he claimed to be geting help on his own, but the church we
attended decided that the Bible says that I was now unclean and was
no longer worthy to take communion, be in the quire, be an usher, or
colect the offering. I was no longer worthy to do anything but sit there
every week and feel shame and disgrace because I was now concidered
unclean.
I was striped not only of every service I had performed in the church, I
was striped of all dignity and left the faith I loved so much because of
these actions.
My question. where did GOD ever say that victims of sexual crimes should
be punnished and were no longer worthy of his love and communion with
him.
Why do christians feel that the GOD that I love would want them to cause
a victim more pain and suffering than what they have already endured.
If their god is that kind of god, he is not the same GOD i serve and have
learned to love again after so many years.
I have forgiven the one that molested me, I have learned that my GOD
does not and did not condone those christians actions, but I find it hard
to this day to forgive those christians.
I would like some thoughts on this so that maybe I can finaly forgive them
and go on with my life as I know if I dont forgive I can not be forgiven.
Thank you all for any comments .:help:
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