egroen
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It is very difficult to work with other women sometimes; they really can be spiteful, backtalking and petty... more so than men, it seems.
I have developed a bit of a theory about this over the years. I think human beings are competitive by nature and we strive for competition in our lives.
With men, that competition is focused towards sports at an early age. They can get out their aggression, "leave it on the field" and learn how to handle competition as "part of the game" without taking it personally. Even once they are too old to actively participate in sports they feel just as much a part of it by cheering for their favorite local teams, playing golf or maybe even video games.
Women are not brought up to be as competitive, even if they do play sports. Subtley, it could even be argued women are encouraged to compete with other women for attention, men and simply who is the prettiest. But this competition is not 'in your face' or out in the open -- it's way more diplomatic and insidious than fostering competition through sports and way more personal.
So in the job world (and also with friends), women have a tendancy to take competition, slights and trivial differences WAY more personally than men. It is not merely a 'part of the game' for women.
-Erin
I have developed a bit of a theory about this over the years. I think human beings are competitive by nature and we strive for competition in our lives.
With men, that competition is focused towards sports at an early age. They can get out their aggression, "leave it on the field" and learn how to handle competition as "part of the game" without taking it personally. Even once they are too old to actively participate in sports they feel just as much a part of it by cheering for their favorite local teams, playing golf or maybe even video games.
Women are not brought up to be as competitive, even if they do play sports. Subtley, it could even be argued women are encouraged to compete with other women for attention, men and simply who is the prettiest. But this competition is not 'in your face' or out in the open -- it's way more diplomatic and insidious than fostering competition through sports and way more personal.
So in the job world (and also with friends), women have a tendancy to take competition, slights and trivial differences WAY more personally than men. It is not merely a 'part of the game' for women.
-Erin