Who should pay for dinner on a gay date?

[Saint Frankenstein]

So lately the topic of who should pay for dinner/drinks/the entertainment on a date came up. Usually people say it's the man, or the more progressive types say it should be split between the two and there's still others who say each should pay for their own stuff (me).

But I've only heard this spoken about in a heterosexual context? How does this work with gay men? Or lesbians? I'm honestly perplexed. Lol.

 

[Subduction Zone]

Usually in the straight world the man pays. But then the man is usually the one that is asking the other out.

I would say, and this would apply to both gay and straight, that the one asking is the one that would need to pay. Eventually it should be more fifty fifty.

 

[Guitar's Cry]

Maybe whoever suggests the place? That way they won't be hit with a bill they weren't expecting.

 

[Saint Frankenstein]

Reasonable suggestions.

 

[Guitar's Cry]

Reasonable suggestions.

I did go on a date with a guy once, and I did pay. I suggested the place, but I also knew he wasn't doing well with money.

 

[VoidCat]

Split the bill or have whoever is doing better financially if you know that info and are close enough to pay.

 

[We Never Know]

I don't see where going dutch should be a problem. Sometimes its preferred.

 

[vulcanlogician]

The top. At least for the first date.

 

[Saint Frankenstein]

The top. At least for the first date.

I was waiting for this to be brought up.

 

[SomeRandom]

Flip a coin? Lol

Idk. Maybe split the bill. Or perhaps one pays for the meal and the other person pays for dessert. If that’s a thing US restaurants do?

I will say though, I was always raised not to accept a paid meal without “shouting the next one.” Or at least buy the guy a drink lol
Even during dating scenarios.
Not sure if that comes from my Aussie or Fiji-Indian heritage though.

 

[Revoltingest]

I think government should pay.

 

[King Phenomenon]

Who cares. Whoever’s got more money. No in all seriousness I don’t think stuff like that matters anymore, gay or straight.

 

[Guitar's Cry]

I think government should pay.

They are, after all, constantly screwing us.

 

[The Sum of Awe]

Usually in the straight world the man pays. But then the man is usually the one that is asking the other out.

I would say, and this would apply to both gay and straight, that the one asking is the one that would need to pay. Eventually it should be more fifty fifty.

I agree. Paying for something for someone is to show that you're grateful for their participation.

 

[Heyo]

I think government should pay.

:winner:

 

[Heyo]

I would say, and this would apply to both gay and straight, that the one asking is the one that would need to pay.

Yep.

Eventually it should be more fifty fifty.

Eventually it would be more fifty-fifty if people keep inviting each other.

 

[Left Coast]

So lately the topic of who should pay for dinner/drinks/the entertainment on a date came up. Usually people say it's the man, or the more progressive types say it should be split between the two and there's still others who say each should pay for their own stuff (me).

But I've only heard this spoken about in a heterosexual context? How does this work with gay men? Or lesbians? I'm honestly perplexed. Lol.

I play it by ear. In general I think it's very romantic for a man to pay for my dinner, so if he wants to I'll let him. But if he doesn't volunteer then in general I just suggest we split the bill.