Again, you are free to interpret it how you want, and I am free to find your interpretation entirely lacking. It's not that "God doesn't make the world as I would," it's that "God doesn't make the world with love of humans in mind the way it is told." And I find no good reason to give my loyalty to a "leader" who does not have my best interests, or the best interests of my wife and kids, in mind. I don't just give of my loyalties freely - and God has done absolutely nothing to earn them.
I don't know how you can be so sure that "God knows what He is doing." By the evidence - the many multiple religions in the world, the many multiple denominations/sects of even the same religion, the general confusion that permeates EVERYONE's mind at one time or another regarding spiritual matters. If you were trying to run a tight ship because you cared for the safety of every crew member on your vessel, would you leave SO MUCH to chance? Would you allow a whopping TON of interpretations of your orders? If so... why in the hell would you do that? You simply can't have a good reason. And to my mind, neither does God.
This is sort of dodging the question, and likely because it is difficult for you to admit. Here's the original question: does a human being NEED to have the ability to procreate in order to have free-will? Is that a requirement? If so... then would you say that people who can't have children for whatever reason also no longer have "free-will?" When I had my vasectomy - did I suddenly lose my free-will? And if the answer is "no" - that a human needn't have the ability to procreate in order to have free-will... well then I just solved God's problems in this area! He can easily, magically sterilize anyone who is bound to abuse or kill their children, and it doesn't interfere with their free-will. Why not? Really think about this now... what would stop Him? Considering people exist who cannot procreate - and yet have free-will (do they not?!) - I really can't see a drawback to this.
That "women cuddle their children seconds after they are born, lovingly" is, I think, missing the point. The mother (who loves the child, and is the knowledgeable one in the situation) undergoing pain would be what, in comparison to the scenario of a child experiencing pain on Earth? Besides that obvious lack of correlation to the God-child dynamic, there is also the fact that a mother understands the good to be had out of the situation - and the child in an abusive home that leads to death has absolutely no good to look forward to or attain out of the situation, unless "heaven" exists, AND they are slated to go there - for let's not forget, the sins of the fathers shall be punished into posterity according to "The Good Book."
Agreed. Talking over when it is permissible to destroy a living human fetus and when it isn't is an entirely sterile, disconnected process that is simply not ever going to reflect well on the moral understanding of the parties doing the talking in my opinion.