PoetPhilosopher
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Looking for some potential words of wisdom.
Suppose you were kind of born into a tight religious family in real life that is like its own community. Suppose they kind of have their own rules, etc, and they tend to make things overall fair but conditional - you'll tend to have a great time if you obey the rules, and don't stray too much. Suppose that the rules are strict, but usually not too much, with consequences for breaking them. Suppose that you were raised by this family, but due to some different paths you took growing up, you aren't that religious.
So what do you do if deep down, you kind of do want to be a part of this family and community but don't feel their customs and traditions in the pit of your soul? I see three options:
1. Part ways and do your own thing, with them tending to see you as the black sheep that got away, and as a result, using religious justifications for ignoring you and not helping you get by. But at least you have your own beliefs. Even if you end up with a worse place to stay, a harder life as you figure things out on your own, etc. Just not much family to talk to.
2. Accept their rules and customs, but live in the shadows as a different person, doing your own thing, but not trying to bother the family with it.
3. Just give in to what your family wanted all along, leading to the least arguments, and adopt their customs and religious traditions in your heart and soul despite how weird it may feel at first, and how bad it might feel to compromise. Maybe even having the hopes and optimism that it will somehow help you on your paths in life, despite you not logically seeing it?
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In any case, I'm over seeing them as mean or destructive, I've finally put that teenage angst behind me. It is what it is. I just need to decide what future paths I will take within the family or going around it.
Suppose you were kind of born into a tight religious family in real life that is like its own community. Suppose they kind of have their own rules, etc, and they tend to make things overall fair but conditional - you'll tend to have a great time if you obey the rules, and don't stray too much. Suppose that the rules are strict, but usually not too much, with consequences for breaking them. Suppose that you were raised by this family, but due to some different paths you took growing up, you aren't that religious.
So what do you do if deep down, you kind of do want to be a part of this family and community but don't feel their customs and traditions in the pit of your soul? I see three options:
1. Part ways and do your own thing, with them tending to see you as the black sheep that got away, and as a result, using religious justifications for ignoring you and not helping you get by. But at least you have your own beliefs. Even if you end up with a worse place to stay, a harder life as you figure things out on your own, etc. Just not much family to talk to.
2. Accept their rules and customs, but live in the shadows as a different person, doing your own thing, but not trying to bother the family with it.
3. Just give in to what your family wanted all along, leading to the least arguments, and adopt their customs and religious traditions in your heart and soul despite how weird it may feel at first, and how bad it might feel to compromise. Maybe even having the hopes and optimism that it will somehow help you on your paths in life, despite you not logically seeing it?
?
In any case, I'm over seeing them as mean or destructive, I've finally put that teenage angst behind me. It is what it is. I just need to decide what future paths I will take within the family or going around it.