Whine less.
Precisely.
Since you seem to like anecdotal chat, let me offer the following:
My father recently died in early June. We never had much money but one of the things he bought for us at a very, very early age was the Encyclopedia Britannica and Britannica Jr. Whenever I would approach him with a question of fact, his first response would be "Did you look it up?". If yes, he was more than happy to answer my question to the best of his abilities, If not, he would point me to the books.
Thats my gold standard, and I view responses such as ...
with nothing but contempt.
One last story - a couple of nights ago I found myself parking next to a car with a bumper sticker which read:
MAKE AMERICA THINK AGAIN
Yes.