kitty24 said:
My husband begged me to allow him to get me pregnant even after I told him that we were not stable enough. I have 1 3 year old from a previous relationship he has a 4 year old that I havent even met yet and he hasnt bonded with. I had to leave school to have my first child and now I'm back in school trying to graduate. I meet this man sent by God but he wanted another baby. He even prayed for this child.But I dont want this baby now! I want to finish school.He says he'll be there and he'll make sure I graduate just give him this chance to prove me wrong just let him have this baby . I'am pregnant now but god knows I pray everynight and ask god to have me miscarry. I dont want this child right now! He thinks that because God made him my husband that he has a right to conceive children without my support. What do I do?
Hi Kitty, Namaste.
Welcome to the forum. I am only so very sorry that you ask for advice to what must be an attrocious situation as your first post.
You are the only one who can decide what you do at this juncture, and you must try to come to a descision as soon as possible, for obvious reasons.
It sounds as if your husband deliberately manipulated you into this situation, against your will. Whatever you decide, he will have to abide by your decision; it is your body that he is 'using' to have a child, regardless of the fact that he knows you want to graduate. His attitude would make me think about being with him (If I was female) for much longer - he doesn't seem to care much for what you think. You already have a child (your own), and he has one of his own.
Perhaps it might be good to have a long 'talk' with him, and tell him how you feel he has abused you by deliberately going against your wishes, and maybe suggest to him that you want to terminate this pregnancy in order to be able to graduate, and, as a compromise, you would consider having a child later -That is, of course if you are prepared to consider that. Try to tackle it more from a point of view of "I realize this is very important to you, and while I accept the fact that ypou would like us to have a child, you must know how important it is to me to graduate....." In other words, try to validate his feeling - at least if you do so you will be doing him a favour that he denied you when he went out of his way into tricking you.
The decision, at the end of the day, is yours, and you must do whatever you think is right for you.
I don't envy you the heartache,but it is something that you have to sort out as soon as possible. You might also like to consider that if he rejects any mention of termination, maybe his feelings for you are more manipulative than genuine. Whatever you do, I wish you all the wisdom and insight, and I hope you won't mind if I say a prayer for you, to help you make the decision that is right FOR YOU.