Men Just Don’t Trust Women — And It’s A Huge Problem

[crossfire]

If they open the door when it is happening, they open themselves up to being very vulnerable. I can see how this might be the source of the mistrust of women the article speaks about.

I do believe this might be what Carl Jung called Anima possession (anima is emotional) in a man in response to a woman being intellectual (Animus is intellectual.) The Anima development within a man is directly related to how that man views women. A woman with an undeveloped animus will be dogmatically opinionated and authoritative rather than a reasonable and wise guide, which enforces the distrust of women in this instance.

 

[Quintessence]

While I think that Mr. Damon makes some great points in the article, such as how a lot of men distrust women's feelings compared to men's, I also think he may be projecting way too much. It seems to me that he is talking about his distrust of his wife's feelings as if it were necessarily a projection of men's attitude toward women's feelings in general.

That was my impression as well. And I also wonder if he's also projecting his own insecurities regarding emotions onto his wife. But who knows. On the whole the article didn't go in the direction I thought (and wished) that it would - commenting on the empirical evidence that both men and women exhibit prejudice when it comes to voice pitch and perceived authority. Things like that.

 

[lewisnotmiller]

It was interesting to me, and I would probably be quite similar to the author. Like him, I trust my wife implicitly in terms of how she acts. I'm not possessive, and admire many of her characteristics.
But I would commonly downplay emotional things in my head. Even though I know she's quite a grounded person. So from that point of view, I was nodding along.

On reflection, though, I think I ultimately trust emotional response LESS than other forms of communication regardless of who is providing it. If you want to have a chat, and have me nod along, listen, etc, then by all means, use emotional language. But if you want action, I tend to be much more methodical, and I trim the emotion (mentally) from the content almost entirely (for better or worse). This would be true when I've managed people also.

I guess my question to those here would be whether that then leads to an inherent bias in what I am acting on based on the means of communicating. Perhaps along gender lines, but also along lines of education or age (as examples).

 

[Anto]

This is the feminist-only section. Do you self-identify as a feminist?

Doesn't matter if he does or doesn't, he makes a good point.

 

[crossfire]

Doesn't matter if he does or doesn't, he makes a good point.

Actually, it does, as this subforum is open ONLY to those who self-identify as feminists. Those who don't self-identify as feminists are not allowed to post here at all.