Used NIV. The KJV says:
25 And there went great multitudes with him: and he turned, and said unto them,
26 If any man come to me, and hate not his father, and mother, and wife, and children, and brethren, and sisters, yea, and his own life also, he cannot be my disciple.
27 And whosoever doth not bear his cross, and come after me, cannot be my disciple.
(Mine is a Catholic version, one I have used because it is one I've had for many years. Since becoming a member of RF, and seeing the comparison with other versions, I find that I do prefer it, because the differences I've seen are much closer to a loving and tolerant presentation than some other versions I've seen.)
I make a practice of viewing scriptural verses within the context of the entire chapter they are presented in, and I find this a preferable approach to taking a few verses out and applying them to particular situations of this day.
What do you think about my thoughts that the gist of this chapter is about Jesus presenting an overall message to those listening to him that they should give serious consideration to what will be required of them (the cost/burden) before embarking on the journey of following him -- through several examples of situations where they would already understand that it is wise for people to do just that, and perhaps choose an alternative if the cost is too great for them to bear, or they don't see good chance of success?
25 On one occasion when a great crowd was with him, he turned to them and said,
26 "If anyone comes to me without turning his back on his father and mother, his wife and his children, his brothers and sisters, indeed his very self, he cannot be my follower.
27Anyone who does not take up his cross and follow me cannot be my follower.
28 If one of you decides to build a tower, will he not first sit down and calculate the outlay to see if he has enough money to complete the project?
29 He will do that for fear of laying the foundation and then not being able to complete the work; for all who saw it would jeer at him,
30 saying, "That man began to build what he could not finish."
31 "Or if a king is about to march on another king to do battle with him, will he not sit down first and consider whether, with ten thousand men, he can withstand an enemy coming against him with twenty thousand?
32 If he cannot, he will send a delegation while the enemy is still at a distance, asking for terms of peace.
33 In the same way, none of you can be my disciple if he does not renounce all his possessions.
I do not interpret this message as an instruction
for all to follow him, or for all to leave their family and their life behind them, or to establish hatred as some form of virtue.
I interpret it as him understanding the opposition and personal cost expected for his followers to have to bear, and him informing them he expects them to give it serious thought, and for them not to come with him if the cost is too great for them, or they do not think they can really see it through to the end of what they will likely have to endure.