as am I. It's unfortunately a common trope in stories, particularly in those mediums aimed at the male demographic, which let's face it most are, where a woman is present and has bad things happen to her for the sole purpose of providing motivation for the male lead or just to show off how bad *** the male lead is. It happens all the time in comics. That's why in the comics I want to write I'm going to turn the trope on it's head by having the woman the dashing young hero comes to rescue actually be the bad guy and her attacker be another woman who would have succeeded in capturing her were it not for his bone-headed look before you leap interference
And to make matters worse for him they are both demi-gods
I do love turning tropes inside out and giving them a good spanking:flirt:
though on a more serious note I do think that is the best way to combat them aside from criticizing them when they show up, do your best to avoid and/or turn them on their head in your own work while supporting those who do the same. Though I do wish there was more we could do, one of the reasons why it's so hard for me to get into most books is because they keep on pulling tropes like this which disgust me.
*sigh* I really should just go back to reading mists of avalon and wicked, those books actually have competent female leads and don't throw me into catatonic fits of rage every time I try to read them.