Be ye perfect as god is perfect the bible says. And it says this round about the same place where it says 'love your enemies'. God is very good at loving the imperfect. And that is what perfection is. Loving perfectly that which is imperfect. A mother who has a child born without arms is able to see the child as perfect simply because she is able to love the imperfect perfectly. Therefore we become perfect by the measure that we come to love the imperfect.
Some of the final words jesus spoke on the cross was 'forgive them father for they know not what they have done'. He loved the imperfect perfectly.
While we were still sinners Jesus died for us. He would not and could not have done that if he was not able to love the imperfect perfectly. And his love is what makes us perfect, not we ourselves. The child with no arms is not perfect but can be whole simply by being loved perfectly by those around him and himself.
Our problem is not that we need to become perfect, what we have to do is start to love our imperfect selves. The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, I can change. When i love the imperfect me and accept the imperfect me, i have the courage to do just about anything.
How do we love god then? He is perfect! Our love for a perfect being is completely imperfect! And god knows this. We know that our partners, our mothers and fathers, brothers and sisters have faults, but we love them anyway. Their humanity makes them more lovable actually. But god, what about god? There is no imperfections in god. He is perfect. So how do we love the perfect, perfectly? Well that is a tricky one... so there really is only one way to show the perfect that you love him perfectly, you obey his commandments. And what is the commandment? To love him! LOL! How do we love God? Well, i have thought about this long and hard, and i have concluded that to not find any pleasure in god is to show him dishonour and not love him. And this kind of love, the love that is shown by the imperfect towards the perfect is a mystery. Perhaps that is why we will always need grace and mercy.
How perfect do I think i am.... not perfect at all, but completely perfectly loved by god, therefore in his eyes, wholely perfect, though in my own im not.
So i have concluded that in order to love myself perfectly...i need to accept who god thinks i am, to have the corouge to change.